It’s The Deception Of The Affair That Bothers Me The Most

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from women who are understandably very fixated on the deception their husband used to get away with his affair. And some women feel that the deception was the worst part of the whole thing. I heard from a wife who said: “my husband deceived me for no less than seven […]

I Want To Tell The Mistress’ Husband That She Is Cheating On Him

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are fed up with their husband’s affair.  Often, when the husband shows some reluctance or resistance to ending the affair, the wife is understandably hurt and wants revenge.  And the first thing that will often come to the wife’s mind is to contact the other woman’s […]

How Can I Make My Husband Understand Why I’m So Angry Over His Emotional Cheating And Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are so frustrated because their husband is somewhat indignant about his emotional infidelity.  Often, he will take the stance that since he did not psychically have sex with someone else, then he is not a cheater and he does not understand why his wife is treating […]

Keeping Your Family Together After An Affair: Is It Worth It?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from folks whose sole motivation after their spouse has cheated or had an affair is to keep their family together at all costs. As angry and as hurt as the affair has made them, they are determined not to allow this to tear their family apart. However, as determined as […]

How Do I Use My Anger Constructively After My Husband Cheated And Had An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who feel absolutely overwhelmed by the anger that they are experiencing after their husband has cheated or had an affair. Often, they intuitively know that this anger is very harmful to them and to their families, but they aren’t sure how to channel it in positive ways. I […]

My Husband Won’t Agree To Having No Contact With The Other Woman

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who are beyond frustrated that their husbands will not agree to break off all contact with the woman with whom he cheated or had an affair. I heard from a wife who said: “my husband had an affair with the mother of one of my son’s best […]

Should I Tell My Husband’s Parents About My Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who are confused about who to include in the healing process after an affair.  Many people are quite close to their spouse’s family and they wonder how much information should be given. I heard from a wife who said: “I am extremely close to my in laws.  In […]

Should I Force My Spouse To Go To Counseling After He Cheated And Had An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who are determined to get to counseling after infidelity has rocked their marriage.  They often see this as the best way to save their marriage, or at least to help it partially recover.  Unfortunately, sometimes their unfaithful spouse is not as enthusiastic about this and will sometimes […]

Is A Separation A Good Idea If Both Spouses Cheated?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from folks who are dealing with an infidelity situation that is doubly troubling because both spouses have cheated on one another. This means that there are now two sets of issues to work through and to recover from. And it can make an already volatile situation almost unbearable. I […]

I Feel Like I Let Everyone I Love Down By Having An Affair

By: Katie Lersch: Many people can’t help but dwell on how much disappointment and pain that they have caused by cheating or having an affair. Often, they are well aware that they have deeply hurt the people that they love the most and they can’t seem to focus on anything other than this. One of […]