My Spouse Is Still Bringing Up My Affair Ten Years Later

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who feel as if they will never be truly free from an affair that is in the past.  Often, they have tried everything that they know to do to make sure that their spouse can heal and move on.  But it doesn’t happen, even many years later. I […]

I Feel Like My Spouse Is Only Staying After The Affair For Financial Reasons

By: Katie Lersch: Many folks have their doubts about the sincerity of the spouse who has cheated or had an affair. Many times, they think that their spouse has chosen to stay in the marriage for reasons other than genuine love or commitment. A common theory is that the spouse only remains in the marriage […]

How Do I Get Rid Of The Hatred I Feel For The Other Woman?

By: Katie Lersch: Many wives are fully aware that they are spending far too much time thinking about the other woman with whom their husband cheated or had an affair. And often, these thoughts are fueled by negativity. At first, this might offer some temporary feelings of relief. But after a while, you realize that […]

Do Couples Ever Have A Normal Sexual Relationship After An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: Many people are discouraged about the changes in their sex life after one of them cheated or had an affair. Often, they can’t help but notice that no matter how much time has gone by and no matter how hard they seem to try, things just don’t seem to be the same. […]

I Stayed After My Husband After He Cheated And Had An Affair, But Now I Want To Leave Him

By: Katie Lersch: Many wives want to know if it’s appropriate to change responses after a good deal of time has passed after their husband’s affair. One might say: “my husband cheated with a woman from his work.  Because he has a religious job, this was a bit of a scandal.  I felt obligated to […]

How Can I Get My Spouse To Love Me Again After My Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: Many people would give anything to turn back time so that they could take back their affair. They deeply regret their actions. But unfortunately, there is no way to take it back. And because of this, their actions can hurt their spouse so deeply that their spouse can feel as if they […]

Do People Ever Feel Regret When They Get A Divorce Because Of An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: Many people try to gauge if there is going to be regret if their marriage ends because of an affair. And this can cause concern from both the faithful spouse and the cheating spouse. Perspectives From The Cheating Spouse: From the cheating spouse, you might hear a comment like: “I am just […]

I Gave My Husband An Ultimatum And He Chose The Other Woman Over Me. Is It Over?

By: Katie Lersch: Many wives are devastated that their husband has decided that he wants to be with the woman with whom he has been cheating or having an affair. Sometimes, the wife has forced this choice with an ultimatum. But other times, the husband has made the choice on his own. One of these […]

I Now Have More Desire For My Husband After His Emotional Affair. Is This Normal? I Feel So Desperate.

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are hurting, but at the same time, they feel as if they have dodged a major bullet. They have caught their husband engaged in an emotional affair. They are hurt and devastated by this. But at the same time, they are grateful that they found out before […]

My Spouse Is So Insecure After I Cheated And Had An Affair

By: Katie Lersch: Some people are sincerely remorseful for their infidelity and they truly want to save their marriage. But they sometimes believe that they may not succeed because of the damage that the infidelity has done to their spouse or to their marriage. One common complaint of this type is excessive insecurity on the […]