The Other Woman Ended The Affair. How Does My Husband Feel Now?

By: Katie Lersch:  I often hear from wives who are trying to gauge their husband’s reactions and feelings after infidelity has rocked their marriage.  Often, the husband isn’t very forthcoming about his feelings or wishes because he doesn’t want to anger or hurt his wife.  So unfortunately, the wife is left with taking her best […]

My Husband Says He Cheated Because Of Low Self Worth And Not Feeling Like He Was Good Enough For Me. Does This Mean He’ll Do It Again?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are on the receiving end of an excuse for cheating that focuses on her strengths and on her husband’s flaws. In short, he is telling her that the reason he cheated or had an affair is because their relationship encourages (or causes) his low self esteem. […]

My Husband Says I Make Him Feel Like Having An Affair. What Does This Mean? What Should I Do?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who aren’t certain how to respond when their husband says something extremely hurtful as it relates to his fidelity. Sometimes, he will actually insinuate that something about the wife or the marriage tests his fidelity. Not only can the wife be hurt and horrified to hear this, […]

Why Don’t I Feel Anything At All After My Husband’s Affair? How Do I Make Myself Feel?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are quite surprised at their reaction (or lack thereof) after they have found out that their husband has been cheating or having an affair.  Many had assumed that they would have some sort of a dramatic and negative reaction.  And they are stunned when this doesn’t […]

My Husband Agreed To Stay After His Affair But Has Admitted That He’s No Longer Attracted To Me

By: katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are trying to desperately to save the marriage that has been racked by cheating.  Often, they feel that they almost have to fight to keep their cheating spouse from leaving.  Many have become so emotionally upset during this process that they are willing to do almost […]

I Want To Talk About My Affair And Clear The Air, But My Spouse Seems To Want To Pretend That It Never Happened

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from cheating spouses who are trying very hard to save their marriages. To that end, they often know that they have to talk about the affair in order to work through it. Having this type of discussion isn’t anyone’s idea of a good time, but most people realize that […]

Why Do I Want The Details Of My Husband’s Affair When It Hurts So Much To Hear Them?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who wonder why they insist on further hurting themselves after their husband’s affair by demanding to know all of the painful details.  They often will try to tell themselves that it really is better to just let some things go, only to eventually give in to their […]

How Do I Assert Myself After My Husband’s Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  I often hear from wives who feel somewhat powerless after their husband cheats or has an affair. They often also struggle with societal beliefs which seem to embrace the notion that women who try to work it out with men who cheat are lacking in self esteem or assertiveness. This societal message […]

I Regret What I Said After I Discovered My Husband’s Affair. And I Don’t Know How To Take It Back

By: Katie Lersch: Many people confess with shame how they acted or what they said after they found out about their spouse’s cheating. They feel that they are unique in their reactions, but it might help them to know that they are not. Many of us say things that later make us filled with regret. […]

My Husband Says He’s Entitled To His Privacy After His Affair. And He Resents My Checking Up On Him.

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who feel that not only is it their right to check up on their husband after he’s already been caught cheating once, they also feel that this is something what they need for their own peace of mind. Even though they very much want to believe their […]