My Spouse Had An Affair And Gets Mad Every Time I Want To Talk About It

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who want and deserve answers about their spouse’s affair but who are meeting resistance about the same.  Often their spouse becomes angry or just refuse to talk about it. I heard from a wife who said: “I found out about three weeks ago that my husband had […]

Taking Responsibility For Cheating. What Does This Phrase Really Mean?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from people who aren’t sure what their spouse means  by demanding that they “take responsibility for cheating.”  Because often, the cheating spouse feels that they have done just that, but the faithful spouse still doesn’t seem to be satisfied or happy with them.  So they are often looking for […]

My Spouse Is Actually Worse After We’ve Been To Counseling For The Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who are upset because they are struggling to save their marriage after an affair and their last hope seems to be waning.  They knew that saving their marriage was going to be a challenge, but they hoped that if they were successful at convincing their spouse to […]

How Do I Become More Attractive To My Husband So That He Won’t Cheat Again?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who feel that they need to change in order for their husband to remain faithful.  This always concerns me because often the reasons that men cheat have nothing to do with their attraction to their wife.  Instead of it being about what is wrong with their wives, […]

Who Can I Talk To After The Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from folks who feel as if they don’t have any one with whom they can be completely honest about their marriage and the recent infidelity that has threatened it. Sometimes, this concern comes from the faithful spouse.  You’ll often hear comments like: “I really wish I had someone to […]

Do I Want To Rebuild My Marriage After My Husband’s Affair? How Do I Know?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who are having a very hard time formulating a plan after their husband has cheated or had an affair.  Often, their first inclination is to leave and turn their back on their husband and on their marriage.  But, often, this feels very abrupt and not quite right. […]

What Attracts A Man To The Other Woman In An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are extremely confused as to what their husband could possibly see in the other woman.  They often have sought out this woman and taken a good long stare at her.  They’ve tried to view her from different angles or perspectives and they are still coming up […]

How Do I Get My Husband To End The Affair Without An Ultimatum Or Not Giving Him A Choice?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are broken hearted not just because their husband has been having an affair, but also because he can’t or won’t come to a decision as to whether he wants to end that same affair.  This can feel like a double betrayal especially when you are still […]

I Had To Find Out About My Husband’s Affair From The Other Woman. What Does This Say About My Husband? And My Marriage?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who have had the unfortunate experience of being told of their husband’s infidelity by the woman with whom he has been cheating. Finding out that your husband has been unfaithful is horrible enough. But hearing these words come out of the woman who has also betrayed you […]

My Spouse Doesn’t Want To Have Sex While We’re Working It Out After His Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from couples who disagree about when (or even if) to have sex when they are trying to recover from infidelity.  Sometimes, I hear from the faithful spouse who is confused and upset that the cheating spouse isn’t trying to have sex with them.  They will often wonder if this means […]