Staying After The Affair Because Of The Children. Does It Ever Work?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who are clear on the fact that the only reason that they are considering staying with the spouse who has cheated them or had an affair is because of their children. These spouses often don’t have much use for their cheating spouse or even for their marriage, but […]

I Am Worried That My Spouse Will Never See Me The Same Way Again Since I Cheated

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who ask if their spouse is ever going to look at them the same way after they had an affair. Often, the worry is that the trust will never return or that their spouse will always see them as someone who is lacking in integrity and who […]

How Do I Let Go Of My Fear That My Spouse Will Cheat Again?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from people who truly want to move past their spouse’s cheating but one huge issue is standing in their way – and that is the issue of fear. It’s absolutely normal and understandable to be so afraid of something that has hurt you so much. When you have been […]

Does It Make A Difference If A Man Cheats With A Younger Or An Older Woman?

By: Katie Lersch: Sometimes, I hear from wives who are particularly upset over the age of the other woman. Quite often, the infidelity is particularly painful because the other woman is younger. This can cause a very direct hit to the wife’s self esteem and she can begin to wonder how her husband would ever […]

My Spouse Says He Lied About Cheating And Is Now Claiming There Was No Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from folks dealing with a spouse who is trying to retract a confession of cheating. Often, the faithful spouse has serious doubts about the truthfulness of these claims. Because usually, the attempted retraction comes after the alleged cheating spouse experiences the negative consequences of their confession. Common comments are […]

Does My Husband Remember The Good Times Of His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who wonder how much time their husband spends thinking about or indulging in memories of the other woman in the affair. Some wives are afraid to even ask about these suspicions. And some get up the courage to ask but are told to stop asking questions that […]

When Should I Accept That My Affair Will Never Be Forgiven?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who are beyond remorseful for having an affair. Often, they would do absolutely anything in order to be forgiven. And, they have often tried multiple things in order to achieve this goal, but have been unsuccessful. This leaves them wondering if there will ever be a resolution […]

Why Is My Cheating Husband Saying He Still Cares For Me?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from folks who are extremely confused as to why a cheating spouse would boldly proclaim that they still care deeply for their faithful spouse. It’s normal to wonder why someone who seemingly cared so little for you that they would cheat would now pretend to care so much. This […]

Does My Husband Think Of The Other Woman When We Have Sex?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who can’t help but wonder if their husband is still thinking about the woman with whom he cheated and had an affair, especially during intimate times, like having sex.  Intimacy and sex can be difficult enough after infidelity, but wondering about him thinking of the other woman […]

Do People Think About How The Affair Will Affect Their Spouse?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who just can not fathom how their spouse would have an affair when he must have realized how much of a negative effect this was going to have on his family. These confused faithful spouses will often tell you that their cheating spouse is a careful and […]