My Spouse Had An Affair And Now I Don’t Want My Kids To Have Anything To Do With Him Or His Family

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from people who are beyond angry about their spouse’s affair.  Often, they want very harsh revenge.  And one common way to get this revenge is to take away what they know is the most precious thing to the cheating spouse – his children. Common comments in regard to this […]

I’ve Become Obsessed With The Other Woman. I’m Practically Facebook Stalking Her

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who freely admit that they have become somewhat obsessed with the woman with whom their husband cheated or had an affair. Of course, it is just human nature to want to learn everything that you can about her. You want to know what your husband saw in […]

I’m Cheating On My Spouse And I’m So Afraid That I’m Going To Lose My Family And My Money

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who are right in the midst of cheating on their spouse and who are well aware that this is a huge and ill advised risk. Often, they know that they should stop the cheating or the affair because they have put everything that they love at risk. […]

Is It Normal To Feel Absolute Hatred For The Person Who Cheated With Your Spouse?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from folks who are absolutely shocked at the intense emotions that they are feeling toward the person with whom their spouse has been cheating. In this instance, there really isn’t too harsh a word to describe what they are feeling. “Hatred” is a word that you will often hear. […]

My Affair Is In Love With Me. I Don’t Know What To Do

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who started an affair or a cheating relationship with no intention for it to cross an emotional boundary. In other words, it can be only about sex, or having fun, or creating a diversion.  Unfortunately, both people aren’t always in agreement about this. One person can remain […]

I Took My Husband Back After An Affair. How Likely Is He To Cheat Again?

By: Katie Lersch:  I often hear from wives who are desperately trying to regain their sense of self confidence and trust after their husband has had an affair.  Often, they desperately want to believe that their husband is remorseful, rehabilitated, and that he will not cheat again.  But somewhere, deep down, these wives live with […]

It’s Been Six Years Since My Spouse Had An Affair. And I Still Worry. Should I Just Walk Away?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from people who are still disappointed with their progress after their spouse’s affair.  Often, they had assumed that they would have made much more progress than they actually have.  And they are devastated that they are still experiencing pain, worry, and doubt.  As a result, they can start to […]

I Believe That I Have Forgiven My Spouse’s Affair. But I Don’t Think That I Can Ever Forget It

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from people who are worried that they haven’t fully healed from their spouse’s affair.  And the reason that they will often give you for this is that they believe that they have forgiven, but they are worried that they haven’t yet been able to forget.  So they are concerned […]

Should I Contact My Husband’s Work After His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from spouses who wonder what their responsibility is when it comes to a work place affair. In these types of situations, the company may have guidelines that concern work place relationships. The faithful spouse is often quite understandably angry and hurt and this can motivate them to consider reporting […]

Should I Allow My Spouse To See How Angry I Really Am About His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who are afraid of showing their spouses how they truly feel about the affair. Often, they are so angry that their strong reaction alarms them. Also, they often notice that when just a touch of their anger starts to seep out, their spouse retreats from them or […]