I Feel Like If I Stay With My Cheating Husband, Then There Are No Consequences For His Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who, somewhere deep in their hearts, want to stay with their cheating husbands. Sometimes, they have children and they feel that keeping the family together is going to mean a better outcome for those same children when they become adults. Or, perhaps they still love their husband […]

Under What Circumstances Should I Take Back My Cheating Husband?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are keeping their husband at arm’s length because he has cheated or had an affair. Some husbands don’t accept this type of distance however. They will beg their wives to take them back. To that end, a husband will often act in such a way to […]

How Can A Man Not Think Of His Wife And Kids While Having An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who just can not understand how their husband could carry out the process of cheating and having an affair. Sure, she understands the physical process of it. But, she can not understand the mental or emotional process of it. After all, she believes that her spouse is […]

How Do I Repair My Relationship With My Extended Family After My Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from folks who want to know how to mend fences after their affair.  So, I might hear a comment like: “I had an affair nine months ago. I lied to my husband and my children. I would pretend to work late when I was really spending time with the other […]

I Told The Truth About My Affair. I Wish That I Had Listened To Other People And Lied

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from folks who thought long and hard before they finally told the truth about their affair. This is a decision that they didn’t take lightly. Often, they went back and forth. They debated internally. They even approached trusted friends and asked for advice. And, in the end, they decide […]

I Don’t Want My Husband To Be Happy With The Other Woman So I Stay With Him Out Of Spite

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who believe that their husband is in love with the other woman with whom he had an affair.  So, the wife thinks that the husband would be happy if he could be with the other woman full time. The wife often believes that if she were to […]

My Spouse Wants Space After He Had An Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who aren’t quite sure how to react to their spouse’s need for “space” after one of them has cheated or had an affair. And, this space can be requested by either spouse. Sometimes, it is the cheating spouse who wants or needs space because he isn’t sure […]

I Don’t Feel Like My Husband Is Being Completely Honest As We’re Trying To Rebuild Our Marriage After His Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are very frustrated with the rebuilding process after their husband’s affair. Often, they are grateful that he is willing to make an attempt. But they feel that in order for this to work, both people are going to need to hold nothing back and to be […]

Why Don’t Men Think About Their Children When They Leave Their Family For Another Woman?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who just do not understand how their husband could be so callous as to leave her and her children to pursue the other woman in an affair. Often, she tries to ask her husband open ended questions in an attempt to understand how he could possibly do […]

Why Won’t Men Say How They Feel After An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are so frustrated that their husband is keeping his feelings in when he has cheated or had an affair. He might agree to explain how the affair happened. And, he may disclose at least a few of the circumstances surrounding it. He may even do what […]