My Cheating Husband Seems To Think That Publicly Declaring His Love For Me Will Make Everything Better

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s very common for husbands who have been caught cheating to try to declare their love for their wife immediately afterward.  Because once it is clear that they might lose her, then they realize how catastrophic their behavior has truly been.  Sometimes, the wife might find this somewhat reassuring, but rarely does […]

He’s Cheated And Said He’s Sorry. He Seems Sincere. But It Doesn’t Feel Like Enough.

By: Katie Lersch: After the person that you love cheats or has an affair, it often becomes pretty clear that they can’t give you what you really want – which is for the affair to never have happened. No matter how much they might want to, they can’t negate the event. They can’t make you […]

He Cheated And I Stayed. Now I Wonder If I Made A Mistake.

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who have long dealt with their husband’s affair. And, they are still in their marriage. Because they chose to stay. And there are various reasons for this. But now as time has passed, and perhaps circumstances have changed, they are questioning if things may have worked out […]

He’s Giving Me The Silent Treatment After I Caught Him Cheating

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who were expecting a long, drawn out explanation from their guilty husband after they have caught him cheating or having an affair. Instead, all these wives are hearing is silence – perhaps also accompanied by dirty looks – encompassing what many of us call the silent treatment. […]

The Person I Left My Spouse For Wants To Go Back To His Marriage. What Can I Do Now?

By: Katie Lersch: I occasionally hear from folks who at one time made the decision to leave their spouse to be with the person with whom they have been having an affair. At the time, this can seem to be the right decision. Because they really believe that they are in love with this other […]

The “It Just Happened” Excuse For Cheating: What Can You Do If You Just Don’t Buy It?

By: Katie Lersch: In a perfect world, your spouse would take absolute responsibility for his cheating – no matter how it happened. This is true whether the spouse planned out the cheating or not. Unfortunately though, many spouses believe that their offense isn’t as bad if they never planned to cheat.  In other words, they […]

My Husband Said He Had An Affair Due To Loneliness. How Is This A Valid Excuse?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are struggling with the reasoning or the justification that their husband has provided for having an affair. One example of this is that of loneliness. A confused wife might tell this story: “for several weeks, my husband could not give me a straight answer when I […]

My Husband Says He Doesn’t Want Me Or The Other Woman. He Wants To Be Free Of Us Both

By: Katie Lersch: It’s understandable when a wife gives her cheating husband an ultimatum that he has to choose between her and the woman with whom he has been cheating or having an affair. But often she’s not anticipating a husband who announces that he doesn’t want to choose either woman. As an example, I […]