Why Is It So Hard To Trust My Husband After His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: Most of us married folks are willing to trust our spouses with most things, even when they have messed up a time or two. We trust our spouse to handle our finances even if he has made a few bad business decisions throughout the course of our marriage. We trust him with […]

I Feel Like I Need to Maintain A Certain Distance From My Husband After His Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who believe that they have made a firm decision to stay with their cheating spouse. They haven’t taken this decision lightly and they may have wavered about it. But, in the end, they have decided that the best decision for them is to try to save their […]

My Spouse Doesn’t Want My Affair Partner Around Our Children

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who are a little put off that their spouse wants to dictate their relationship with the other person during an affair. Often, the person having the affair knows that the relationship is wrong, but they can’t seem to stop it. And although they know that it is […]

The Other Woman Says My Husband Is Lying About The Affair

By: Katie Lersch: When you are trying to evaluate what you want to do after your spouse has an affair, you can only make a decision as good as the information that you are getting. Most of the time, much of your information comes from your spouse. Quite understandably, you can have some doubts about […]

Do Men Worry About What Their Wife Thinks About Them After They Have An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are under the impression that their husband doesn’t care about their opinion after he has cheated or had an affair. In fact, they think that he could care less as to whether or not they have a very negative opinion about him and his actions. You […]

What Things Can I Do To Make My Husband Feel Bad About Cheating?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s not unusual for me to hear from wives who are dealing with indignant husbands who seem to have no bad feelings about their cheating or affair. There is seemingly no sorrow, no remorse, and no guilt. I might hear from a wife who says: “my husband only feels bad that he […]

Should I Ask My Spouse If Sex With The Other Person Was Good?

By: Katie Lersch: When your spouse cheats on you, one of the biggest problems you will need to overcome is processing the fact that your spouse had sex with someone else. Not only does this bring about a bunch of unsavory mental images, but it can sabotage your sexual confidence and seriously harm your own […]

Should I Tell The Other Woman I Hate Her For Having An Affair With My Husband?

By: Katie Lersch: Most people can understand how a wife would feel hatred toward the woman with whom her husband has cheated and had an affair. But what can be not quite as apparent is whether or not the wife should act on this hatred. Many wives feel as if this hatred is literally eating […]

Living In The Now After The Affair: Is It A Good Idea

By: Katie Lersch: If you’ve never dealt with a cheating spouse or a marriage marred by an affair, then you probably don’t realize how all encompassing thoughts of the affair can become. There are times when you can think of little else and when you feel as if you are stuck in emotional quicksand. Everything […]

I Cheated On My Spouse And Now My Kids Don’t Respect Me

By: Katie Lersch: Most people realize that when you cheat on your spouse, there are more people than just you and your spouse involved. Infidelity actually affects many lives. It affects you and your spouse’s life and your marriage, of course. But it also affects the life of the other woman, the life of her […]