My Husband Said The Other Woman Reminded Him Of Me

By: Katie Lersch: There are many common excuses or justifications that a husband will give as to what drew him to the other woman. Some men will actually try to convince their wives that the other woman was nothing special. Some will approach this in the opposite way and try to make their wives understand […]

Our Therapist Is Telling Me To Back Off On Pushing My Husband For Details About The Affair. Why?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who are seeing a counselor to help them heal after a spouse’s affair and who are confused about the counselor’s strategies. Before I go any further, I have to tell you that for the most part I find counseling to be quite helpful and I can’t possibly […]

The Right Reasons And The Wrong Reasons To Stay Married After An Affair

By Katie Lersch: I often hear from couples who are trying to decide if they’re going to save or end their marriage after one of them has an affair. They often aren’t sure if the problems that lead to the affair are insurmountable or if the damage that it caused inspired pain that is impossible […]

My Husband Was Spiteful When Telling Me He Cheated

By: Katie Lersch: Finding out your husband has been cheating is painful enough. Many wives admit that they have a bit more respect for their husbands if he confesses to the cheating himself. However, this often isn’t true if the husband is mean, cruel, or spiteful while making that confession. A wife might say: “last […]

Do Some Men Break Off The Affair Once Caught?

By: Katie Lersch: Finding out that your spouse has been having an affair is a painful experience. But wondering if he is going to continue to affair or break it off as he’s promised is equally as painful. Many women really want to believe that he is going to end it and never look back. […]

I Just Found Out About The Affair, But I Feel Like My Marriage Has Already Been Over For A Long Time Anyway

By: Katie Lersch:  I believe that it is an untrue myth that all people are shocked when they find out that their spouse has an affair.  Some people truly see it coming and honestly believe that it inevitable before it actually happens.  They know that their marriage or their spouse is struggling.  Or, they see […]

I’ve Been Struggling With Getting Over My Husband’s Affair For A Long Time. How Do I Turn The Corner?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from women who feel that too much time has passed since their husband’s affair to not see any improvement.  Often, months or even years go by and yet they feel no better and there is not yet a sense of relief. The wives can start to wonder what is […]

My Spouse Cheated. But He Never Expressed Any Unhappiness In Our Marriage

By: Katie Lersch: It’s often assumed that a man’s cheating is not always that much of a surprise to the wife and to those who know the couple well. People often assume that there were warning signs or that the husband has long been complaining about his marriage and the wife refuses to listen until […]

My Husband And I Have A Great Sex Life. And Yet He Still Cheats. Why?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are extremely confused as to why their husband is a repeat cheater. They have made it their business to ensure that they have full, exciting, regular, and stimulating sex life. And yet, he still cheats. This often leaves them wondering if perhaps the sex isn’t as […]

My Husband Wanted To Have Lots Of Sex Right After He Had An Affair. But Now He Doesn’t. What Is Going On?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s very common to use your sex life in order to gauge how your marriage is faring after an affair. While I understand this and I did it myself, I have to say that it is not the most accurate measurement of how your marriage is holding up. It’s normal for your […]