What Range Of Emotions Do People Feel When Having An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  One common theme that I see over and over again in the correspondence that I get comes from faithful spouses who are desperately trying to understand the cheating spouse’s thought process while being unfaithful. Many faithful spouses have never cheated on someone.  So they just can not understand what types of feelings […]

Is Affair Sex Always Good?

By: Katie Lersch: Much of the time, when people mention affair sex, they assume that it is so good that it is almost mind blowing. They assume that it has to be this good in order to make it worth the risk. Many spouses who have someone cheat on them also make this assumption, even […]

My Husband Has Finally Admitted That He Might Doubt His Commitment To Me After His Affair

By: Katie Lersch: Sometimes, when a person is first confronted about an affair, their immediate reaction is to swear that they never wanted to end their marriage. They will swear that their first commitment is to their spouse, no matter what they might have done or said concerning the other person. And often, this is […]

An Anniversary Letter To The Spouse Who Cheated: Should You Even Mention The Affair Or Infidelity Or Just Move On?

By: Katie Lersch: It would be wonderful if you could recover from your spouse’s affair without real life cutting into the mix. What I mean by this is that it’s hard enough to know what to feel or how to proceed when you’re able to clear your calendar and to avoid obligations that make things […]

What Can I Say Or Do To Hurt My Spouse After His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: Understandably, it is a common desire to want to share the hurt that you feel when your spouse cheats or has an affair. After all, how is it fair that you are the one going through all of the pain? Of course you want for the person who caused all of this […]

Why Would A Husband Tell His Wife To Leave While Arguing About An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: There’s no denying that the time period after learning about a spouse’s affair can be extremely volatile. People say things that they later regret. They mutter things that are only meant to hurt. They spew things that they would never say during moments of calm. And once things calm down, both parties […]

Can My Husband Really Change His Personality After An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who have made the decision to stay with their husband after he has had an affair. Many of these wives  have doubts as to whether or not this is a sound decision. They worry if their spouse is worth their trust in him. They worry that although […]

After My Husband’s Affair, He Asked Me If I Could Ever Love Him Like I Used To. What Am I Supposed To Say To This?

By: Katie Lersch: People often ask me if they will ever be able to truly love their spouse again after an affair has rocked their marriage. It is my belief that with a good healing system and a willingness to have an open mind, the love can return to many marriages. This isn’t a good […]

Does The Other Woman In The Affair Think That She’s Going To Take The Husband Away From His Wife?

By: Katie Lersch: Women whose husbands are having an affair sometimes reach out to me. Some of these women are considering confronting or meeting with “the other woman” and are trying to get a handle on this woman’s thought process. Many wonder if she thinks she is in love with the husband or truly believes […]

How Do I Know If I Still Love My Husband After An Affair. Because Right Now, It Feels Like I Hate Him

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s very common to feel very confused about your feelings when you find out that your spouse has had an affair.  On the one hand, you’re often so angry that you could do bodily harm to someone.  You’re so shocked, that you feel as if you need a second just to catch […]