My Husband Says That I Have Embarrassed And Humiliated Him After His Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are dealing with a husband who is trying to shift the blame after he is the one who cheated or had an affair. Often, he will try to find a way to make the wife’s behavior seem inappropriate or partly to blame. I heard from a […]

I Want To Be Confident And Mysterious After My Husband’s Affair. How Can I Do This?

By: Katie Lersch: Although there can be a lot of pain and self doubt after an affair, this time period can also be a time of reinvention. If I’m being honest, I can’t tell you that my husband’s affair was worth the “new me.” But I can honestly say that some positive changes came out […]

How To Beat The Other Woman At Her Own Game. Can It Be Done?

By: Katie Lersch:  Not all wives who find out that their husband has been cheating on them want to make things work.  Some know immediately that they can’t move past this.  Others believe that initially, but later decide that not only do they want to maintain their marriage, but they want to get their husband’s […]

I Regret Accusing My Husband Of Cheating. But He Has Cheated Before

By: Katie Lersch: It’s normal to watch your spouse very closely when they have already cheated on you once. It would be silly not to watch and to just assume that everything is fine. Unfortunately, many of us become hyper-vigilant – so much so that many of us see cheating where none exists. And sometimes, […]

My Cheating Husband Says He Loves The Other Woman But Is Staying With Me Because Of The Kids

By: Katie Lersch: Whether or not to stay together after your husband has an affair is a decision that almost no one takes lightly. Knowing that your spouse has cheated on you makes you doubt the very foundation of your marriage. It makes you doubt that you will ever be happy with and confident in […]

My Spouse Broke Off The Affair Before I Could Confront Him. Should I Still Confront Him?

By: Katie Lersch: Many people assume that as soon as someone finds out that their spouse is cheating, they will immediately seek out their spouse for a nasty confrontation.  After all, isn’t an affair bad news that just can’t wait? Believe it or not, some people chose to bide their time and wait for a […]

I Believe My Husband Is Punishing Himself For Having An Affair

By: Katie Lersch: It’s normal for the faithful spouse to watch the cheating spouse’s behavior very closely as the couple struggles to pick up the pieces after an affair. Very often, the faithful spouse wants to see a good deal of remorse. They want to know, without any doubt, that their spouse is sorry for […]

My Husband Cheated On Me Twice. I Left. Now He Wants Me Back

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who fear that it is too late to save the marriage wracked more than once by infidelity. Often, this is a difficult situation because their husband is begging the wife to take him back and making all sorts of promises. A wife might explain: “the first time […]

When Confronting The Other Woman Or Mistress Backfires

By: Katie Lersch: I get an awful lot of emails from wives who are considering confronting the woman with whom their husband had (or is having) an affair. There are many motivations for this. Sometimes, the wife is reacting most to anger. Sometimes, the most persuasive emotion is curiosity. Other times, she wants for the […]

I Told The Other Woman She Should Be Ashamed Of Herself But She Said She’s Not Ashamed Of Anything

By: Katie Lersch: When you are a wife who is dealing with infidelity in your marriage, the lack of morals exhibited in your husband and the other woman can trouble you deeply. It’s normal to wonder just how one woman could do this to another.  We often find the other woman’s lack of concern that […]