How Does The Other Woman Feel When The Husband Chooses To Go Back To His Wife?

By: Katie Lersch: Sometimes, when you are a wife and your husband is having an affair, all you can think about is whether or not he is going to choose you and your marriage.  This can be true even if you are unsure if you want the same thing. However, once he does chose you, […]

I Feel Like Another Woman Stole My Husband Away. But My Friends Say That A Man Can’t Be Taken, He Must Willingly Leave. Is This True?

By: Katie Lersch: I find that when it comes to anger after a spouse’s affair, you tend to feel more angry at one person over another. Sure, you may be angry with both people – meaning both your husband and the other woman. But, typically the brunt of your anger is higher for one person. […]

How To Deal With Knowing Your Husband Enjoyed Sex With The Other Woman Or Mistress More Than You

By: Katie Lersch:  One of the biggest issues to overcome after your husband has an affair is your insecurities about sex.  In the best case scenario, your husband assures you that the sex with the other woman wasn’t as great as the sex he has with you. In the worst case scenario, your husband is […]

What A Spouse Should Do To Prove He Wants To Stay Together After An Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who deeply regret cheating on their spouse and who would give virtually anything if their spouse would give them any hope at all that they could stay together. Some of the time, the faithful spouse refuses to believe that there in any logic in a person cheating […]

How To Find The Right Time To Ask Questions About Your Spouse’s Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I know from experience that sometimes in the aftermath of an affair, talking about that dreadful event over and over is probably the most excruciating thing that you can imagine. There are explanations that you don’t want to hear because they are going to give you images that you can’t chase out […]

How Do I End The Affair Gradually? Is This A Good Idea?

By: Katie Lersch: I will admit that I’m always a little surprised when I hear from cheating spouses who are asking for my opinion on what to do to make things right. I’m usually pretty clear that I see things from the perspective of the faithful spouse. Still, sometimes it’s obvious that the cheating spouse […]

I Want To Stay In My Marriage After My Spouse’s Affair, But I Just Want To Be Friends For Now

By: Katie Lersch: There is no question that an affair changes your marriage – at least in the short term. But not every one immediately considers a divorce. Sometimes, there are circumstances that preclude a divorce – like children, finances, or religious beliefs, to name only a few. Despite these circumstances though, people sometimes want […]

I Had An Affair And My Spouse Says I’m ‘Not Sorry Enough.’

By: Katie Lersch: It’s very normal for both spouses to have trouble effectively expressing their emotions after the affair.  Sometimes, it is hard to say what you mean.  Other times, it’s easy to feel defensive since the faithful spouse might be lashing out and saying hurtful things. That’s why in this atmosphere, it can be […]

How Do Wives Survive When Their Husband Confesses To An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  Much of the time, we underestimate ourselves.  We look at people facing hardships with dignity and grace and we are full of admiration and awe.  We are proud of them.  We wish them well.  But we also secretly think that we could never handle obstacles or struggles in the same skillful way.  […]

People Tell Me That Always Worrying My Spouse Will Cheat Again Is A Waste Of Time. Are They Right?

By: Katie Lersch: Those of us who have had someone cheat on us know that our worst fear becomes having to deal with this again at sometime in the future. So we become very adept at watching and looking for any clues as to whether anything is amiss. This is understandable, considering the pain that […]

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