What Should I Do If My Spouse Says He’s Not Ready To Listen To Me After My Infidelity?

By: Katie Lersch:  Sometimes, when you have cheated on your spouse and you deeply regret it, the one thing you want more than anything is a chance to both explain yourself and to tell your spouse how you really feel.  You want your spouse to know that you love them and that you are willing […]

Is It True That Men Get Over Affairs Faster Than Women?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from people who are want to save their marriage after infidelity, but who are very concerned that their spouse is not yet “over” the other person – even when their spouse insists that there is nothing left to the cheating relationship. Many men like to claim that the affair […]

My Husband Said He Felt “Empty” So He Had An Affair. What Does This Even Mean?

By: Katie Lersch:  If I’m being honest, I’m not sure that any of my husband’s excuses for an affair were going to ring true for me, especially at first.  When you are dealing with the shock of an affair, you are defensive.  You are angry.  So when your husband starts will the defenses which indicate […]

My Husband Had An Affair And Now He’s Claiming To Be Depressed Due To The Shame And Guilt

By: Katie Lersch: It is normal for both spouses to struggle after an affair. People often assume that it is just the faithful spouse who struggles. But this isn’t the case. The spouse who cheated can feel deep shame and guilt – which can lead to a feeling of worthlessness and depression. And these things […]

I Admit I’m Acting Crazy Since My Husband’s Affair. I Know It’s Not Like Me. But I’m Having Trouble Controlling It

By: Katie Lersch:  I often hear from wives who don’t like the way that they are behaving or acting after discovering their husband’s affair.  Most of us like to have control over our actions and emotions.  But when you get this kind of shock and disappointment, it’s quite normal to lose control for a bit.  […]

I Feel Like My Spouse Should Be Groveling After His Affair. But He Isn’t

By: Katie Lersch: When our spouse makes a very big mistake, we often have the expectation that he will apologize profusely for that mistake, explain what lead up to it, and do everything in his power to assure us that it will never happen again. This is particularly true if the mistake was a life-changing […]

My Husband Was Honest About His Unfaithfulness But Lies About The Details

By: Katie Lersch:  One would think that husbands who were caught cheating would already know that the jig is up.  You already know the worst of it – that he has been unfaithful to you and that this may mean that your marriage is in serious trouble.  So, what is the point of being so […]

Why Is My Spouse Being So Possessive Of Me When He’s The One Who Had The Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s considered normal when your spouse has an affair and afterward you become extremely observant of your spouse’s comings and goings.  It’s understandable to want to know what he’s doing and who he is with. Even if you would not normally be this suspicious, vigilance can feel necessary because no one wants […]

My Husband’s Affair Made Me Gain Weight. And Now I Feel Even Worse About Myself

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s very normal to scrutinize your appearance after your spouse cheats or has an affair.  We wonder if we are not pretty enough, thin enough, alluring enough, or playful enough.  We wonder if the other woman looks better than we do and, as a result, we can be very hard on ourselves. […]

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