When The Mistress or Other Man Wants To Talk To The Wife / Husband

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who have been cheating on their spouse and who are in a bit of a panic.  And there can be a couple of reasons for this.  First, they are beginning to realize the full brunt of their mistake.  They are realizing that their fantasy or hope of […]

When Is It Too Soon To Have Sex After An Affair?

by: katie lersch: Sex after an affair is a recurrent theme in some of the correspondence that I get. Many people are looking for guidance as to what is a healthy or advisable time frame. I recently heard from a wife who was grappling with this very issue. It had only been three weeks since […]

My Spouse Says That Our Marriage Is Probably Over Because He Doesn’t Deserve Me After He Cheated

By: Katie Lersch: Many people understand that the time period after learning of your spouse’s affair is a volatile one. Often, it’s impossible to think clearly and objectively. And for these reasons, many people understand that, most of the time, it’s not in your best interest to make any important and lasting decisions until you […]

The Other Woman Claims My Husband Loves Her In A Way He Doesn’t Love Me. She Says I Can Never Have That Kind Of Love With Him

By: Katie Lersch: Many wives who seek out or talk to the other woman know deep in their hearts that no good can come of it. Many later admit that there was a little voice in their head telling them to end the communication at once and to never look back. But, for whatever reason, […]

What Prompts An Affair To End Suddenly?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who have tried to prepare themselves for a long and painful wait. Their husband has made it clear that he is not sure if he is ready to end his affair. And so the wife very begrudgingly tells herself that she is just going to have to […]

Believing That Your Spouse Is Still Sexually Attracted To Your After His Affair: Tips That Might Help

By: Katie Lersch: It’s no great mystery as to why women whose husbands have cheated can lose sexual confidence. To put it bluntly, your husband has had sex with someone else. So it’s perfectly natural to wonder if this action was at least partly motivated by the fact that he doesn’t find sex with you […]

Which Spouse Needs To Make The Most Effort After An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: As you are struggling to navigate the days after you find out about your spouse’s affair, it can become clear that, in order to ever move past this, both you and your spouse are going to have to put forth a great deal of effort. Recovery doesn’t happen on its own, but […]

Does My Spouse Really Want To Hear About My Feelings After His Infidelity? He Seems More Annoyed Than Interested

By: Katie Lersch: It is normal to want to talk at length after you find out your spouse has been cheating. You often have a lot of emotions that you need to release. And you want your spouse to understand what you are feeling. Although many spouse’s seem willing to listen right after the affair […]

My Spouse Says That In His Mind, Our Marriage Was Over Before His Affair. But It Wasn’t Over For Me. And It’s Not Over Now

By: Katie Lersch: Very few wives truly buy their husband’s excuses for having an affair. Even if you can see a little bit of validity in what he is saying, very few of us can go from seeing a somewhat valid point to totally excusing him for cheating on us. We often think he’s just […]

I Find Myself Constantly Trying To Spy On My Spouse Since His Affair, But This Just Makes Him Angry

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s normal to have some doubts when you’ve caught your spouse in an affair that he is now claiming is completely over.  After all, how are you just supposed to believe him when he’s been lying all along?  And if the affair was so important to him that he risked detection, does […]

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