Coping Techniques After Being Cheated On And Deciding On Staying Together

By: Katie Lersch:  If I tried to tell you that life after a spouse’s affair was easy or was smooth sailing, you would know that I was lying.  Common sense tells you that it is not.  And yet, despite the difficulty, many people chose to stay for various reasons. Often times, there are children and […]

Why Do Men Feel So Guilty About An Affair When Most Of Them Do It?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who assume that they know what has actually happened during a marital affair, but who are severely mistaken.  People tend to make assumptions that are not true.  People tend to assume that things are their business when in reality, they are not. Some of these people are […]

How Do I Ruin The Confidence Of The Other Woman?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s understandable that the wife of a man who has cheated will feel somewhat competitive with the “other woman.” This can be true even if the wife no longer wants her husband and doesn’t even care if the affair continues. Regardless of how the wife feels about her husband, she can still […]

I Feel Sexually Numb After My Spouse’s Cheating. Why? What Can I Do About It?

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s rare to carry on with your sex life as if nothing happened after you discover that your spouse has had an affair.  Although some couples will report that their sex life actually improved right after infidelity, this is the exception rather than the rule.  Many couples struggle sexually.  This is particularly […]

Could My Husband’s Childhood Have Caused Him To Be A Cheater?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s common knowledge that, when people are caught cheating, they will sometimes offer up excuses that place the blame elsewhere. They might tell you that they didn’t think they were worthy of love or happiness or that they sabotaged themselves. They might tell you that something traumatic in their backgrounds contributed to […]

Forgiving Yourself After You Had An Affair? Is It Self Indulgent Or Selfish?

By: Katie Lersch:  People often assume that when a marriage is harmed by an affair, the person who is hurt the worst is the faithful spouse.  And while I know firsthand that it is extremely painful when your spouse cheats on you, the spouse who cheated can be deeply hurt as well.  They can struggle […]

What Does The Other Woman Think Of The Wife?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s completely normal to wonder about the woman with whom your husband had an affair. You wonder what type of person she is. You wonder what thoughts she had about your husband. You wonder what she thought about you. Often, people just do not understand this curiosity. They wonder why it matters […]

My Husband Only Agrees To “Take A Break” From The Other Woman

By: Katie Lersch: Just about every women I’ve known who has dealt with a husband’s affair has wanted the affair to be over as soon as possible. In fact, most wives demand the same. I’ve never known a woman who said: “oh, take your time with the other woman. There’s no hurry. You can have […]

Shouldn’t My Husband Force The Other Woman To Apologize To Me?

By: Katie Lersch: There’s no question that the faithful spouse in the affair is the one who has been wronged. When you think about all parties involved – the cheating spouse, the other person, and the faithful spouse – it’s clear that the faithful spouse is the innocent party. She (or he) is the one […]

Who Usually Ends The Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  When wives find out that their husband is having an affair, the first question they usually have is how they can make it end.  This is true even if they don’t want their marriages any more. Many will try to force their husband to end it immediately, but not all husbands will […]