How To Stop Wanting Revenge After The Affair

By: Katie Lersch: It’s not at all uncommon for me to hear from people who fantasize about taking revenge on their spouse or the other person after an affair. And this is certainly understandable. When your spouse and one other dishonorable person make a mockery of your marriage vows and betray you in the worst […]

How Do You Truly Get Closure After An Affair? Is It Even Possible?

By: Katie Lersch: One very common topic in the correspondence that I sometimes get is the topic of closure. Everyone who has been through the aftermath of an affair seems to be seeking it. And this includes both the spouse who cheated and the spouse who was cheated on. Closure can be very elusive. Sometimes, […]

I Don’t Want The Affair To Win. Is This Stupid Of Me?

By: Katie Lersch: There are some wives who ultimately decide that they can no longer stick around after their husband’s affair.  This is not a surprising reaction. In fact, many wives assume that this will be their reaction when and if they learn of infidelity.  This is what you assume, anyway. But when the affair […]

I Cheated And Now I Feel Insecure

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who cheated on their spouse and who are now suffering because of it.  Many are suffering for multiple reasons.  They know that the cheating was wrong.  They deeply regret hurting their spouse.  They are concerned as to whether or not their marriage is going to make it.  […]

Do Married Men Ever Tell The Other Woman That They Love Her?

By: Katie Lersch:  One of the most persuasive problems that couples have when trying to reconcile after a husband’s affair is the wife believing that he truly still loves her and wants to be with her.  This can be particularly true if he made claims to be “in love” with the other woman. Sometimes, the […]

I Cheated On My Spouse And I Think That I Should Leave Because He Is Too Good For Me

By: Katie Lersch:  There is a perception that people who cheat want to brush their affair under the rug and pretend as if it never happened.  People assume that spouses who are unfaithful don’t truly appreciate the damage that they have caused. This is true in some cases, but there are plenty of people who […]

Will I Hear From The Other Person After The Affair Is Over?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from spouses who are or have been cheating but who know that this is wrong and must end. Some of them truly don’t want to end the affair, but they do so because they know that they can’t have a future with the other person. So, ending the affair […]

Will I Ever Forget The Person I Had An Affair With? Because The Emotional Toll Of This Is Exhausting

By: Katie Lersch: The majority of people who reach out to me are those who were faithful and who are dealing with a spouse’s infidelity. Occasionally though, someone who was unfaithful will reach out because they are looking for help in their recovery. They often want to make things right, but they are struggling with […]

Do Men Have Actual Emotional Feelings For The Other Woman? Or Are The Feelings Only Physical?

By: Katie Lersch: Our society tends to assume that any man who is cheating on his wife is doing so because he simply wants to have his sexual needs met by someone else. People often assume that physical attraction or mere sexual chemistry is the only thing that the husband and the “other woman” share. […]

Do Affairs Ever End Well?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from the people who are having an affair but who are considering ending it. Many try very hard to find some redeeming factors about the affair. And, even when they are not trying to justify it or make excuses, many are looking to find something positive coming out of […]

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