Should I Give In And Spend Thanksgiving With The Husband Who Cheated?

By: Katie Lersch:  Dealing with an affair in your marriage is difficult during any time of the year.  But it can be particularly difficult during the winter holidays, especially if you have children.  This is the time of the year when families are expected to get together and when everyone is expected to be happy […]

Why Do I Feel So Guilty For Cheating On A Spouse Who Deserves It?

By: Katie Lersch: There is an assumption that people who cheat don’t feel all that guilty about it. After all, if there was any guilt, they probably wouldn’t cheat in the first place. If it helps, I can clarify that I hear from some of these folks and I can tell you that many of […]

I’m Always Pushing My Husband Away After His Affair. And I Can’t Seem To Stop

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s normal to have conflicting emotions after you find out about your husband’s affair.  You may go from not wanting him in your line of sight to fantasizing about saving your marriage over the course of only a few hours. One morning you may be considering kicking him out and by night […]

Tips For Maintaining A Positive Self Image After Your Husband Has An Affair

By: Katie Lersch: Honestly, it isn’t fair that the person who seems to struggle the most after someone is unfaithful is the very person who should suffer the least – the faithful spouse. Often, the faithful spouse took no unfortunate action. They did nothing wrong. And yet, after they learn about the affair, it is […]

When A Man Is Cheating On His Affair Partner With His Wife Should The Wife Tell?

By: Katie Lersch: When there is an affair and another person within your marriage, the relationship that is being prioritized (or which relationship is the most important) can get muddled. Often, the other woman assumes that the husband is no longer intimate with his wife. In order to carry out the affair, it is often […]

I Don’t Know How The Trust Can Ever Return When My Spouse Shows No Remorse?

By: Katie Lersch:  Without any doubt, I firmly believe that if someone surveyed wives with cheating husbands and asked them what behavior they were most looking for, the answer would be remorse. This makes sense.  Because most of us believe that if someone feels true sorrow for their actions then they will be much less […]

Is A Long Term Affair A Serious Threat To A Marriage?

By: Katie Lersch: We’ve probably all heard of couples who live their whole married lives with one or both of them having someone else “on the side.” Many people don’t understand how such a marriage could survive, but some do. However, when it is your own marriage that you are talking about, your judgements about […]

I Don’t Like My Marriage After The Affair

By: Katie Lersch:  Quite frankly, some wives are shocked to find that they still have a marriage at all after their husband’s affair.  Many assume that the second they find out about any infidelity whatsoever, they are out of the marriage.  But, oh so often, it just isn’t that simple.  Sometimes, the husband just will […]

My Husband Is Now Trying To Deny And Downplay His Emotional Affair By Saying “We Were Just Friends:”

By: Katie Lersch:  If you’re dealing with a spouse who you strongly suspect or know had an emotional affair, it is very frustrating when they will not acknowledge or admit it.  And the most typical or common denial that you will hear is that the two of them were “just” close friends.  A husband might […]