Why Do Men Isolate Themselves When They Are Involved In Infidelity?

By: Katie Lersch:  Wives who recount a husband who is unfaithful will often notice that he pulled away either before the infidelity happened, as it was happening, or after it was over.  Many wives don’t completely understand why he would want to isolate himself in this way, especially when it makes the whole situation a […]

What Does The Other Woman Really Want In An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from wives who are trying very hard to understand the motivation of the other woman.  They want to know who or what they are dealing with, of course.  But many do not understand how someone would want to have a relationship with a man who is already committed or […]

Why Do Men Risk Their Family To Have An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: Of all of the reasons that people give me for trying to save their marriage after infidelity, their children is the most common – by far. I can identify with this because I can honestly say that if it were not for my own children, I might not even have considered not […]

I Wish I Had Told My Spouse The Truth About The Affair. He Found Out Anyway and Now He Is Furious That I Lied

By: Katie Lersch: When you are cheating or having an affair, you sometimes consider confessing everything and telling your spouse the truth – especially once the affair is over. Sometimes, you want to confess because you know that it is the right thing to do. Other times, it is the guilt. Or sometimes your spouse […]

If The Other Woman Has Broken Off The Affair, Will My Husband Keep Trying To Contact Her? Will He Keep Reaching Out To Her?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from wives who really wish that they could see the victory in the other woman ending the affair, but they can’t.  While they are happy that the other woman is no longer willing to participate in the affair, they are not so sure that their husband is going to […]

Is There Ever Internal Peace After An Affair?

By: Katie Lersh:  Whenever you find out that your spouse has been having an affair, it feels as if your entire life has been turned upside down.  For a while, the affair may be all that you can think about.  It can be difficult to do your job, live your life, and participate in your […]

If A Man Has An Emotional Affair, Does He Have A Crush On The Other Woman?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who have found out that their husband has been having an emotional affair. Much of the time, the husband will insist that there was nothing physical and inappropriate going on.  He may even tell you that he is not attracted to this other woman. But of course, […]

I Don’t Feel That I Deserve My Spouse Because I Cheated. And I Don’t Understand Why He’s Willing To Stand By Me

By: Katie Lersch: It’s very normal to be hard on yourself after you have cheated on your spouse. You know that you have make probably the biggest mistake of your life and you borderline hate yourself. Seeing the pain on your spouse’s face is like a dagger in your heart because you know that you […]

Should I Contact My Husband’s Mistress To Make Sure That It Is Absolutely Over?

By: Katie Lersch: One of the biggest problems that couples have to overcome when healing from infidelity is the worry that the affair isn’t over or that the cheating will happen again. People often watch their cheating spouses like a hawk – looking for any signs that it isn’t really and truly over. Some even […]

How Long Should I Wait For My Spouse To Decide If He Wants To Stay Together After My Affair

By: Katie Lersch: Most people assume that when you are dealing with an affair, it is the faithful spouse who feels the most pain.  People assume that the cheating spouse is mostly fine while the faithful spouse struggles with the pain and the shock. Although I can tell you that it is very painful to […]