For How Long Is It Ok To Talk About The Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s very normal to have many conversations about your spouse’s affair over a long period of time. Many people feel that it is their right to ask as many questions as they want for as long as they want. As a woman who has gone through this, I tend to agree. However, […]

The Other Woman Hates Me Because My Husband Chose To Stay

By: Katie Lersch:  I’m always a little amazed at the correspondence that I get from wives who are concerned with how the other woman feels.  I admit that after my own husband’s affair, I was curious about how the other woman felt when it ended abruptly on my account.  But honestly, if she had been […]

One Year After The Affair And We Still Feel Lost. We Still Struggle

By: Katie Lersch: When you first find out about an affair, you are often not sure if you want to even to listen to what your spouse has to say, much less to save your marriage. Coming to the decision to stay and to try to work things out is not always an easy decision. […]

My Husband Says His Cheating Was Really A Form Of Soul-Searching

By: Katie Lersch:  Some husbands who get caught cheating have very creative explanations as to why the cheating took place.  This can be especially true if there were no obvious cracks in an otherwise happy marriage. So instead of telling his wife that he cheated because he no longer loved her or wasn’t happy in […]

My Husband Has Let Me Down With His Infidelity

By: Katie Lersch: On the day you got married, I’d be willing to bet that, like me, you envisioned that the person who put a ring on your finger was always going to have your back. And certainly, you felt the same way, because you were fully committed to showing this kind of support yourself. […]

I Have No Choice But To Stay Married To My Husband Even Though He Had An Affair. What Now?

By: Katie Lersch:  I think it’s probably fair to say that a good number of women initially consider altering or ending their marriage after learning of their husband’s affair.  Because it’s a knee-jerk reaction that doesn’t consider the long -term reality.  Your mind figures that A plus B should equal C.  In other words, cheating […]

My Spouse Is Emotionally Distant After Having An Affair

By: Katie Lersch: Many spouses fear or believe that quite a bit is missing from their marriage after their spouse cheats or has an affair.  One constant that you hear concerning lack after an affair is the lack of sorrow or remorse.  Another is the lack of emotion or warmth.  You often hear spouses describe […]

I Don’t Regret My Affair And How It Changed Me. What’s Wrong With Me?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who have cheated on their spouse and who realize that they should be overcome with remorse and sorrow. Intellectually, they know that cheating is wrong and that they have done an awful thing. But somehow, they just can’t regret their actions. And they wonder why. So they […]

He Cheated And Now I Don’t Want Him To Touch Me. Is Our Relationship Over?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s understandable to want to recoil after your significant other cheats or has an affair.  When he hugs you, then you think about him hugging her.  When he kisses you, you wonder if he’s thinking about kissing her.  And I do not even want to think about the sex part.  So it’s […]

The Affair Is Over. What Now?

By: Katie Lersch:  If you are in a situation where your spouse hasn’t decided if they are willing to end the affair for the sake of your marriage, you can get to the point where you think that if you could just get past that hurdle and find a way to end things once and […]