Why Am I Still Digging For Evidence After My Husband’s Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  People can assume that wives who have trouble getting over their husband’s affair truly don’t want to get over it.  There is an assumption that you, as the wife, are making a choice to dwell on it.  Perhaps you always want to have this reason to berate or to be angry at […]

Does The Cheating Husband And Mistress Ever Suffer Because Of The Affair? Do They Ever Feel Regret That Affects Their Life Together?

By: Katie Lersch:  When it appears to you that your husband is actually happy with the other person in the affair, you can begin to feel fierce resentment.  Because from your perspective, they are getting everything.  They seem to be in love, they can move on with their life, and they may well live happily-ever-after […]

Why Is It Taking Me So Long To End And Get Over The Affair When I Know I Didn’t Love The Other Person?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes get correspondence from unfaithful spouses who truly are trying to do the “right thing,” by ending the affair and by cutting off all contact, but they are having a hard time following everything through.  They may be experiencing feelings or doubts that they never anticipated. Someone might explain it this […]

Why Do I Feel Almost Obligated To Have Sex After My Husbands’ Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  In the minutes and hours following the discovery of our husband’s affair, many of us can not imagine having sex with our husbands – ever again. It is just a very unsavory thought – having sex knowing that he has recently had it with someone else.  In a round about way, having […]

My Parents Want To Talk To And Question My Husband After His Affair

By: Katie Lersch:  Sometimes, it would be nice if all you had to deal with was the immediate fall out of the affair.  What I mean by this is that the ideal is just having this be between your husband and yourself.  That isn’t always what happens, though.  Sometimes, other people find out and, even […]

How Am I Supposed To Act Romantic To My Husband After His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  There’s no question that after an affair, you can become very aware of what is happening to your marriage.  You pay attention like you haven’t in years.  Because many of us are trying to evaluate if our marriage can be saved, we observe, we analyze, we watch ourselves, and at times, we […]

Why Would Someone Tell Details Of An Affair Instead Of Lying. Does This Mean They Want To Do The Right Thing? Or Are They Trying To Hurt You?

By: Katie Lersch:  Many wives who are getting ready to confront their husband about his affair anticipate lies, half truths, or out and out denials.  Many assume that even if their husband surprises them and tells some version of the truth, this version is going to be watered down, on meant to diminish the reality […]

Does Knowing The Details Of The Affair Heal The Wife?

By: Katie Lersch:  Many people believe that having the faithful spouse learn all of the details of the affair is going to be necessary for healing.  You will often hear that spouse say: “I know that it will be hard to hear, but I feel like I need to know everything.”  Sometimes, friends and love […]

I’m Terrified That My Affair Might Be Exposed

By: Katie Lersch: I believe that most people who are having an affair try very hard not to allow their mind to go to the “what ifs.” Because if they allowed themselves to constantly think about the “what if” questions, then carrying out the affair is going to be very difficult. Examples of these types […]

My Wife Actually Seems Turned On When I Tell Her About The Affair. But I Think That She’s Just Trying To Trick Me

By: Katie Lersch:  Here are two things that are very common after the discovery of an affair:  the faithful spouse wants details – lots of details.  And the cheating spouse is reluctant to give them.  Why?  He knows that it is going to hurt and anger his spouse.  And if the affair is over, why […]

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