Why Do Men Cheat With Less Attractive Women? Why Have An Affair With An Ugly Woman When A Pretty One Is At Home?

By: Katie Lersch:  I hear from a decent amount of wives who do not understand their husband’s choice of an affair partner.  There is a perception that the “other woman” is always going to be younger and prettier.  After all, if a man is going to risk his marriage or family to make a trade, […]

I Know I Should Leave My Cheating Spouse, But I Love His Family And Don’t Want To Let Them Go

By: Katie Lersch:  I think it can be a mistake to assume that an affair only affects the husband and wife involved.  No, it can have very far-reaching implications.  Even if you choose to keep the infidelity to yourself (which is never a bad idea) it can still have implications on your relationship with extended […]

How Do I Get My Husband To Want To Go To Counseling After The Affair? He Doesn’t See The Point

By: Katie Lersch: Many people intuitively know that probably the fastest and most effective way to save their marriage after an affair is counseling. (Well, I should probably preface that last sentence and say that most women intuitively know this.) For whatever reason, I find that overwhelmingly, women are more likely to be open to […]

Right After I Caught My Husband Cheating, I called Him An Idiot, Stupid, And An @ss. And Now He Won’t Forgive Me And Says I Was Verbally Abusive

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s no surprise that many wives let out a few profanities when they discover that their husband has been cheating.  As someone who has gone through this, I can tell you that you truly are not even thinking rationally at the time.  Words fly out of your mouth that you may not […]

I Want To Say I’m Sorry To The Woman Whose Husband I Slept With. How?

By: Katie Lersch:  Most of the time, when I get correspondence relating to this blog, it is from someone who is dealing with infidelity, but who is trying to maintain their marriage.  It’s rare for me to hear from someone who has no part in the marriage, but it does sometimes happen.  I do occasionally […]

Should I Contact The Other Woman For Closure Only?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are really itching to contact the woman with whom their husband cheated or had an affair. Some know that other woman – even if she is only an occasional acquaintance – and others are strangers to her. But most can figure out how to contact her. […]

My Husband Initially Refused To Show Any Remorse For The Affair. It’s Been Months And Now He’s Claiming To Be Sorry. Is This Genuine?

By: Katie Lersch:  Many wives whose husband has had an affair notice a severe change in attitude from their husband immediately after the affair and then a few months later.  Sometimes, a husband is loving and apologetic at first and then loses patience with always being the “bad guy” or being questioned, so he takes […]

I’m Insecure Because My Husband Cheated On Me. Now He’s Telling Me That My Insecurity Makes Him More Likely To Cheat. How Ironic Is That?

By: Katie Lersch: I think it’s fair to say that almost anyone would understand that a wife who is dealing with an affair is also probably dealing with a bit of insecurity.  Sure, you might hear your husband proclaiming his love for you and making claims that he wants to save your marriage and make […]

Why Do People Who Cheat Always Claim “It’s Not About You”

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from people who are being told by their spouse that they shouldn’t blame themselves for the affair.  The cheating spouse is taking full responsibility and is encouraging the faithful spouse to take none of the blame.  While this can be reassuring, it can also be confusing. Because if your […]