I’m Going Back To My Marriage After My Affair But I’m Not All In And Have My Doubts

By: Katie Lersch:  It would be wonderful if both husband and wife would be equally committed to saving their marriage after an affair.  It would be ideal if, no matter who cheated and who didn’t, both spouses were equally determined to make it work.  This isn’t always the reality, though.  Often, even if both people […]

Having An Affair Made Me Realize That I’m Not In Love With My Spouse

By: Katie Lersch: It’s not uncommon for people to experience very strong and overwhelming feelings when they are carrying out an affair. Many insist that they “have never felt this way before.” Or they claim romantic feelings that are brand new and they’ll say that they “never felt this way about their spouse.” So they […]

I Want To Write An Apology Letter To The Woman Whose Husband I Had An Affair With

By: Katie Lersch: Occasionally, I hear from remorseful women who have slept with someone else’s husband.  They typically find me because they are searching the internet for information about the aftermath of an affair.  They are feeling guilty and they would like to attempt to make things right.  To that end, many want to write […]

What Is The Expected Outcome When You Leave Your Marriage To Pursue The Person You Had An Affair With?

By: Katie Lersch:  Most of the correspondence that I get comes from people who are in a marriage where an affair just ended and they are wanting to save their marriage eventually.  Occasionally though, I hear from someone who is considering ending their marriage to pursue an affair.  I sometimes wonder why they’ve chosen to […]

My Spouse Cheated And I Don’t Know If I Would Even Want To Try To Get Over It

By: Katie Lersch:  I hear from a good deal of women who have recently found out about their husband’s affair.  A large number of them are at least open to the idea of one day repairing their marriage, but they have doubts as to whether or not this will be possible.  The main factor in […]

My Affair Partner Won’t Let Go: Tips That Might Help

By: Katie Lersch:  Believe it or not, many people express a sense of relief when the affair ends.  Sometimes, the intensity of the affair is very exciting at first, but it becomes troublesome as time goes on, especially if the affair partner clings too tightly or almost becomes obsessive.  So it can be a huge […]

What Makes A Husband Want To Come Home After Having An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: Much of the correspondence that I get comes from wives who are dealing with the aftermath of their husband’s affair. Some of them are dealing with husbands who are begging to be forgiven and so the wife has to decide what she wants. Others are dealing with a husband who continues to […]

Why Does My Husband Refuse To Say Anything Bad About The Other Woman?

By: Katie Lersch: When your husband has cheated on you, it’s very easy to direct most of your rage and anger toward the other woman. After all, she’s convenient. You probably don’t have to look at and interact with her every day (while the same is not true for your husband.) And, she deserves it. […]

My Husband Is Trying To Convince Me His Cheating Was God’s Will

By: Katie Lersch:  People sometimes email me and ask for my thoughts on religious beliefs concerning affairs.  I have to be honest and say that I typically don’t equate the two together. I understand that some couples stress having a Godly marriage and wanting to conduct their family life in a way that is based […]