My Husband Keeps Touching Base With And Responding To The Other Woman Because She Has Questions And Needs Closure

By: Katie Lersch: When a husband gets caught cheating, he will often immediately (and without thinking about it very much) promise that he will cut off all contact with the other woman.  Most of the time, he legitimately and sincerely means this.  Despite the perception, many married people who have affairs don’t leave for the […]

How Will Someone Act When They Suspect Their Spouse Of Cheating?

By: Katie Lersch: Most of the time, those who I hear from are the faithful spouse who already has absolute proof that their spouse has been cheating. Sometimes, I hear from the cheating spouse who hasn’t yet been caught. (However, they suspect that their spouse is either onto them or getting ready to confront them.) […]

My Husband Doesn’t Seem To Feel Any Regret Over His Affair. If I Leave, Will I Force Him To Feel Sorry?

By: Katie Lersch: If you were to ask a bunch of wives whose husbands have just been caught cheating what they most want, I suspect a good number of them would answer with some variation on: “I want to know that he is sorry or remorseful for what he has done.” I believe that this […]

Giving The Silent Treatment To The Cheater. Is This Understandable? Is It An Effective Strategy?

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s natural to eventually have not too much to say to your cheating spouse.  Well, let me clarify that.  Many of us have PLENTY to say when we find out about the cheating.  And most of us say plenty (or scream plenty) as soon as the cat is out of the bag.  […]

My Husband Wants My Trust After His Affair. But He Seems Unwilling To Try And Earn It First

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s common sense that one of the biggest issues that you have to contend with after your spouse has an affair is trust.  Even if both of you truly want to save your marriage and come out of this OK, it seems that the trust is always staring you in the face […]

What Has To Happen In A Marriage In Order To Justify An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s not unusual to hear from people who are wondering if there is any way to look at a marriage and cite the shape of the marriage as justification for an affair.  Sometimes, it is the cheating spouse who is looking for this justification.  And sometimes, it is the faithful spouse wondering […]

My Husband Admits He Wants To Come Back After The Affair, But Says He Won’t Beg. Why?

By: Katie Lersch:  Many wives not only have to deal with the fact that their husband is having (or has had) an affair, but they also have to deal with the fact that he leaves the home for a while.  The wife may have wanted him to go, or he may have left all on […]

My Husband Says He Feels Guilt Over His Affair, But No Remorse. He Says There Is A Big Difference

By: Katie Lersch:  Most every wife I know (or have known) who is dealing with a cheating husband wants him to feel both remorse and guilt.  The wives want these emotions because they feel that he deserves to feel badly and they hope that these emotions mean that he might think twice about cheating again. […]

Why Doesn’t A Wife Leave When Her Husband Cheats?

By: Katie Lersch:  I admit that when I used to hear from the “other woman” in an affair, I had preconceived notions.  I assumed that many of these women were not sorry and were without high morals or character.  I assumed that they cared about no one but themselves.  Over time, I had to admit […]

Our Sex Life Is Actually Better After My Husband’s Affair.  How Is That Even Possible? Is It Healthy?

By: Katie Lersch: I believe that most people expect a non-existent or troubled sex life after the discovery of an affair. This reality happens quite often.  Many couples struggle with sex after a betrayal.  And it’s easy to understand why. However, you might be surprised to learn that these struggles are not true of all […]

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