I Feel Like I’m Missing Out By Staying Unhappily Married After The Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I realize that some people will look down on wives (or husbands for that matter) who choose to stay after their spouse has an affair. They think that the wives aren’t strong enough to leave, have no self esteem, or have chosen to just look the other way. However, as someone who […]

Why Do I Feel Like The One At Fault After My Husband’s Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from wives who are struggling to place the blame for their husband’s affair.  Sure, they are furious with their husbands.  And they are extremely angry at the other woman.  But they save some of the anger for themselves.  Because they figure that the fact that their husband cheated on […]

How Can I Get My Spouse To Talk About His Cheating?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s maddening when you want all possible information about your husband’s infidelity, but he just clams up. It’s pretty easy to figure out WHY he’s being quiet – he’s afraid that if he attempts to explain or to give you more information, you are just going to get more angry or use […]

I Still Have Sex With My Cheating Spouse And I’m Ashamed Of That

By: Katie Lersch:  There is often an assumption that as soon as a spouse finds out that the other is cheating, all sexual and romantic contact stops for a very long time.   This DOES sometimes happen.  But it is not the case for every couple.  For some, it is difficult to halt every aspect […]

When An Affair Ends, Does It Start Again?

By: Katie Lersch:  Many wives who find out that their husband is still actively cheating often lists “getting him to stop” as the most important goal.  This is true even if the wife has no idea if she wants to save her marriage.  Very few people are going to discover cheating and then look the […]

I Cheated To Get My Spouses’ Attention But He Didn’t Even Care

By: Katie Lersch: A good deal of people who cheat do so for their own personal reasons. They do it to feel better about themselves in some way. They do it because they have poor impulse control or because they have allowed themselves to be involved in a tempting situation. Some do it because they […]

I Actually Picture Myself As My Husband’s Affair Partner When We Are Having Sex. How Can I Stop?

By: Katie Lersch: Understandably, one of the most common issues a couple can have when trying to recover after an affair centers around sex.  Most people can understand why it would be awkward.  Your spouse has had sex with someone else.  There is anger, hurt, and doubt.  There is worry that the sex will be […]

My Husband’s Excuse For Cheating Is That People Aren’t Naturally Meant To Be Monogamous

By: Katie Lersch:  I’ve heard all sorts of excuses that husbands will give for having an affair.  Sometimes, even the husband knows that the excuse is pretty lame. He’s saying it just to have something to say.  (And saying anything can feel better than just staying silent.)  But one of the lamest excuses out there […]

My Spouse Kicked Me Out After My Affair. Do I Ever Stand A Chance Again?

By: Katie Lersch:  Often, when people are carrying out an affair, they know somewhere deep in their hearts that they may one day be caught.  But they will often push these worries down.  Having an affair can actually be pretty stressful.  You can only handle so many things at one time, so it is sometimes […]

How Can I Tell That My Spouse Is Turning A Corner After My Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from people who greatly regret cheating on their spouse, partly because they are now living through a very difficult recovery period for their spouse, their marriage, and themselves.  Understandably, no one wants to be in this type of pain forever, so people are always looking for signs of improvement.  […]

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