My Husband’s Affair Partner (The Other Woman) Is Getting Divorced And This Worries Me

Sometimes, you intuitively know that if you are trying to recover from an affair, you really need to worry about your own marriage (and yourself) more than anything else.  However, this can be easier said than done.  This is especially true if the other person in the affair ends their marriage.  This leaves the wife […]

How Do You Find Happiness After Your Husband’s Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who wonder if they are ever going to feel truly happy again after their husband cheated or had an affair.  Understandably so, finding out about the affair has been almost life changing and has changed their outlook on life. Common comments are things like: “will I ever […]

Affair Recovery And The 7 Stages Of Grief

It’s very common to hear from people who are worried that they are not healing from their spouse’s affair as they believe that they are supposed to.  Part of the problem is that people have their own ideas about how they should heal.  But on top of this, others are usually not shy about telling […]

My Husband’s Affair Has Changed Me. And Not All Of It Is Bad

It’s not at all unusual to hear people say that a spouse’s affair changed both people in the marriage.  It’s rare for both people not to be deeply affected by the affair.  Sometimes, the cheating partner can become aloof, cold, and insistent that life is too short not to be happy.  Sometimes, the faithful partner […]

My Husband Doesn’t Want To Hear About My Feelings Regarding His Infidelity

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are frustrated because they want their husband to sit down, face them, and then attentively listen as they share their feelings about his infidelity, cheating, or affair. They want to release these feelings and they know that he is the most logical person who should listen. […]

My Husband Threatens To Leave When I Get Mad About His Affair

There is often an element of “punishment” that comes after the discovery of the affair.  The two people within the marriage can become angry, can withdraw, and can therefore “punish” their partner for different reasons.  For example, the faithful spouse can have understandable anger and resentment toward the cheating spouse and it can come out […]

Infidelity Early In A Marriage: Why Does It Happen? Can It Be Overcome?

There is a stereotype of the middle aged man in a long term marriage who cheats with a much younger woman.  We’ve all been conditioned to believe that the younger woman wants money and status while the middle aged man wants sex.  This is certainly sometimes the case.  But you can also see young, newly […]

How Long Does It Take For Your Marriage To Get Back To Normal After An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  I often hear from people who are wondering for how long things are going to feel so tense and awful after their spouse has cheated and had an affair.  I often hear from these folks weeks or months after the affair has been discovered and many of them had hoped that things […]

Cheating Spouse Confessions: Is It An Encouraging Sign When Your Spouse Blurts Out The Truth

It’s interesting to examine cheating confessions.  Not all of them come when a spouse is close to learning the truth or when the cheating spouse is confronted.  Sure, sometimes, the faithful spouse has strong suspicions or knows about the cheating, so the person having an affair will figure that it’s better to confess.  Other times, […]

Infidelity And Income Or Finances. Are The Wealthy Or Poor More Likely To Cheat? What About A Change In Financial Status?

I often hear from people whose spouse was faithful until there was a significant change in financial status or income.  Sometimes, this is a huge promotion or a significant raise where the spouse has much more money than he’s ever had in his life.  Other times, the infidelity comes after a job loss or demotion.  […]