If My Husband Doesn’t Go To Counseling On His Own, Will He Cheat Again?

By: Katie Lersch: I hear from wives who are trying to do everything in their power to keep their husbands from cheating again.  Many insist on joint marital counseling, and many husbands reluctantly agree.  But some husband’s balk at the idea of individual counseling.  Going to counseling on their own is often encouraged for husbands […]

Is It Worth It To Try To Rebuild Your Marriage After An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who are getting discouraged as they are trying to rebuild their marriage following cheating or an affair. Sometimes, they find themselves asking if the struggles are even worth it. One spouse might say: “my husband had an affair last year. We are both committed to rebuilding our […]

Is It An Affair If My Husband Has Feelings From Someone Else?

By: Katie Lersch: I can hear from wives who are struggling after their husband has admitted feelings or an attraction to someone else. Many worry if this confession means that cheating or an affair is going to happen in the future or already has happened. Someone might say: “I noticed a distance from my husband […]

If I Have My Own Affair Will My Husband Quit His Cheating?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are dealing with husbands who are repeat cheaters. These wives are often so tired of the lies.  In the beginning, these wives may have actually believed their husband when he promised he would never cheat again. But, over time and as he cheats again, she is […]

We Both Cheated. Now What?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from couples who are in a marriage in which both of them have cheated. Sometimes, one spouse cheats to “get back” at the other for the initial infidelity. Other times, both spouses cheated (sometimes without knowing about the other spouses’ infidelity) simply because the marriage was struggling. In either […]

My Husband Is Trying To Downplay His Affair. What Now?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who don’t think their husband is taking the repercussions of his affair seriously. This can be extremely frustrating when the wife is taking it so seriously that she can think about nothing else. And when a man doesn’t think that your feelings and your pain are important, […]

I Cheated On My Spouse And I Am So Ashamed: Tips And Advice That Might Help

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from spouses who are overcome with emotion after they realize what a huge mistake they made by cheating on their spouse. They are often struggling with overwhelming feelings of guilt and shame. I might hear from a wife who says: “Last week, I had a one night stand with […]

If I Want My Spouse To Trust Me Again After My Infidelity, What Do I Need To Do?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who are getting very tired of their spouse constantly questioning them and not trusting them after their infidelity. Although many understand that they gave their spouses a reason to doubt them, no one has endless levels of patience. And having your spouse constantly question you or act […]

I Cheated And Now My Spouse Is Ignoring Me Completely. What Should I Do?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from panicked spouses who are being completely ignored after their cheating or their affair has been discovered. Often, they know that they deserve their spouse’s anger, but they are frightened that their spouse is going to continue ignoring them and that this might mean that their cheating will contribute […]

How Are You Supposed To React When You See Your Husband’s Mistress?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are either considering confronting the other woman or mistress or suspect that she is going to confront them. Sometimes, the other woman has been calling or sending emails and the wife isn’t sure how she should react if this woman came knocking on her front door. […]