How Can A Man Prove That He Won’t Cheat?

By: Katie Lersch: Most of the time, I hear from people who are dealing with infidelity that has already happened. Occasionally though, I hear from people who are only dealing with the fear on infidelity. In other words, nothing inappropriate has happened. No one has cheated. But one person in the relationship is frightened that […]

How Do I Feel Special Again After My Husband’s Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from women who feel as if they are losing themselves after their husband’s affair. Even though intellectually, they know that they are a worthwhile and special person, it is hard to convince their heart of this when they feel such a huge sense of betrayal and rejection. It can […]

How Do I Become A Better Spouse After I Cheated?

By: Katie Lersch: Some of the most common requests that I get from cheating spouses on my blog are requests for pointers or tips on how to become a better husband or a better wife after you have made the very grave mistake of cheating on your spouse. Often, the desire is definitely there. It’s […]

How Do I Reassure My Spouse That I Still Love Him After He Cheated On Me?

By: Katie Lersch: As strange as it may sound, I sometimes hear from faithful spouses who feel that they need to reassure the cheating spouse. Often, the spouse who was unfaithful will worry that the marriage can never recover because the infidelity stripped the marriage of the love that the couple previously shared. This isn’t […]

Is It Wrong To Have An Affair When Your Spouse Won’t Have Sex With You?

By Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who are considering cheating on their spouse or having an affair. Often, they are already working on justifications that they can tuck away in their mind in order to help alleviate their guilt. One common example of this is that their spouse doesn’t have enough sex with […]

I’m Afraid My Spouse Will Have A Real Affair Because Of My Emotional Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who are frightened that their spouse is going to retaliate for emotional infidelity by having a physical affair in order to “get back” at them. Often, the spouse who has had the emotional affair sees the potential physical affair as much worse than what they have already […]

I Told My Husband To Move Out After His Affair. But Now I Miss Him

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who felt very justified in kicking their husband out after the discovery of his affair. But, now they are starting to second guess that decision because his absence is very difficult. In short, the wife misses the husband much more than she ever thought possible. And she […]

Should I Pressure My Husband To End His Affair? Or Do I Just Be Patient?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who want for their husband to end his affair at once. But, they are often unsure if this is going to be what is most healthy for their marriage or most conducive to healing. There is often a real concern about appearing to be unyielding and nasty, […]

When Is It Time To Stop Talking About The Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:   I sometimes hear from folks who are dealing with a spouse who has become tired of talking about his affair.  Quite understandably, the faithful spouse often has questions or concerns for quite some time afterward.  It’s completely normal to want to talk about this for a long period of time.  But, […]

Why Am I Turned On By The Details Of My Husband’s Affair? What Is Wrong With Me?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from wives who are truly perplexed by their reaction to hearing the details of their husband’s affair.  Usually, they will tell you that they expected to be not only furious, but totally turned off by their husband.  And often, no one is more shocked than them when this turns […]