I Don’t Understand My Husbands Attitude After His Cheating And Affair (And I Don’t Like It Either)

By: Katie Lersch:  I recently heard from a wife who wasn’t sure what made her more mad at her husband – the fact that he’d had an affair or his attitude following the wife finding out about the same.  As she described it, her husband was acting defensive and cold and only apologized once initially.  […]

My Husband Said That I Humiliated And Emasculated Him By Having An Affair And He Can Not Forgive Me

I sometimes hear from wives who have no idea how they will ever get their husband to forgive their affair. They are more sorry than they can ever express. And they would do anything to earn his forgiveness. But it seems that the affair has challenged his masculinity – and he finds that sin almost […]

Does The No Contact Rule Work After An Affair? If So, How?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes get correspondence asking me about the “no contact rule” after a spouse cheats or has an affair.  People want to know if, and how, it works.  It’s important to note that often, people are talking about two different things when they discuss no contact. No Contact As It Relates To […]

When Does The Remorse Begin After An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who are extremely frustrated because they are not seeing a lot of remorse in the days following the discovery of an affair.  They often expect for their husbands to immediately express remorse, but this doesn’t always happen.  And this lack of immediate remorse can leave them wondering […]

What Is The Likelihood Of A Second Affair?  Because I Could Never Do This More Than Once.

I often hear from women who are dealing with infidelity and who admit that, in a perfect world, they would like to one day be able to save their marriage.  But of course, almost all of them have reservations and doubts.  One of the biggest concerns that I hear is the fear of repeat cheating.  […]

I Told My Husband That His Cheating Affected My Self-Respect And His Response Was That It Affected His Too

Many wives who are dealing with the aftermath of an affair will tell you that this process has affected their self-respect or their self-esteem.  This may not make sense unless infidelity has happened to you, but having your spouse cheat on you can make you feel like you are less than everyone else and that […]

Is It True That The Best Revenge For A Spouse’s Affair Is Indifference?

I sometimes hear from people who want their cheating spouse to feel some consequences for their actions.  They want their spouse to feel guilt, shame, remorse, and sorrow.  But, for whatever reason, they have been unable to elicit these responses.  Their spouse continues to act defensive or indignant or attempts to shift the blame.  As […]

What Does My Husband See In The Other Woman Or Mistress?

By: Katie Lersch:  This is a very common question and I’m asked it on a very regular basis.  Today, with the release of the photo of the woman Arnold Schwarzenegger had a baby with, I’ve been asked it several more times. Needless to say, the other woman wasn’t what every one expected.   And we often […]

Staying Together After Infidelity: When Does It Get Easier?

By: Katie Lersch:  I often hear from people who have made the very difficult decision not to walk away from their marriage after an affair.  Many have committed to this decision because they really do feel that it is the best thing for themselves, their family, or their marriage.  But despite their determination or best […]