Why Does My Husband Resent Me When He’s The One Who Had The Affair?

I once heard from a wife who had caught her husband having an affair. The signs were there, and she couldn’t help but follow them, and she found what she had feared. She confronted her husband, but rather than getting the remorseful response she had hoped for, her husband was indignant. She had expected him […]

Grief And Sorrow After Your Husband Cheats: Tips on How to Deal With It So That It Works For You

By: Katie Lersch: When your husband cheats, it feels like your world implodes in a matter of seconds. One moment, you think you understand your marriage, your life, and your future. The next, everything feels like a lie. What makes it worse is that most people don’t always recognize the pain after infidelity as grief, but […]

What To Considering When Deciding Whether To Stay Or Go After Affair

By: Katie Lersch: Whether to stay or go after a husband’s affair is one of the most common questions that I receive. I often hear comments like “I am so torn as to whether I should stay with my husband or leave him after his affair. I never thought I would think about ending my […]

My Husband Cheated And I’m Obsessed With Making Him Jealous

By: Katie Lersch: If you’ve recently found out your husband cheated, I don’t have to tell you how confusing and all-consuming the emotional fallout can be. One minute, you’re crushed and numb. The next, you’re furious. Then comes the urge to do something — to regain a sense of control, to make him hurt even a […]

3 Ways To Heal After An Affair Or Cheating

By: Katie Lersch: Sometimes, I hear comments asking, “How to heal after an affair.”  It’s true that when your spouse has an affair, you can feel as though you’re the walking wounded or as if you have a big gaping wound in your heart that you’re not sure if you’ll ever be able to fix. […]

What Does a “New Normal” Look Like After an Affair? How To Begin To Pick Up The Pieces

By: Katie Lersch: If you’ve recently found out about your spouse’s affair, then you probably already know that nothing feels “normal” anymore. In fact, one of the most common things I hear from readers is something like: “I don’t even know what my life is now. Everything feels off. I can’t imagine going back to […]

Things To Examine When You Can’t Forgive Your Cheating Husband

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes dialogue with wives who tell me that although they’ve endlessly tried to forgive their husband’s cheating, infidelity, or affair, they’ve just not been able to. Many confess this as though it’s an awful kind of failure that’s caused by some place where they fell short. And, many assume that since […]

How Do I Effectively Show Genuine Remorse To My Spouse For Cheating?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from spouses who have made the grave mistake of cheating or having an affair. Many of them are genuinely sorry for this mistake and they want to make things right again. Most of them have repeatedly expressed their sorrow and remorse for their actions. But, much of the time, […]

Why Is My Husband Hesitating to Show Me Affection After I Caught Him Having an Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from faithful wives who are struggling to make sense of their husband’s behavior after an affair has come to light. One particularly painful pattern I’m asked about frequently is this: “Why won’t my husband show me any affection now that I know he cheated?” It’s confusing. In fact, it […]

Mistakes Cheating Spouses Make After Having an Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I mostly hear from betrayed spouses. But I also hear from a surprising number of people who were the ones who had the affair — and who now desperately want to save their marriage. They often say things like:“I messed up — I know that.”“I want to fix this, but everything I […]