Why Is My Husband Hesitating to Show Me Affection After I Caught Him Having an Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from faithful wives who are struggling to make sense of their husband’s behavior after an affair has come to light. One particularly painful pattern I’m asked about frequently is this: “Why won’t my husband show me any affection now that I know he cheated?” It’s confusing. In fact, it […]

Mistakes Cheating Spouses Make After Having an Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I mostly hear from betrayed spouses. But I also hear from a surprising number of people who were the ones who had the affair — and who now desperately want to save their marriage. They often say things like:“I messed up — I know that.”“I want to fix this, but everything I […]

Can I Fall Back In Love With My Husband After He Had An Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from women who are trying to get their lives back after their husbands had an affair. Recently, I heard from a wife who was trying very hard to save her marriage. But there were a few serious issues standing in the way of her being able to do this. […]

For How Long After The Affair Ends Do Men Stop Thinking About It?

By: Katie Lersch: One big worry for many wives who are trying to recover from their husband’s affair is how often he spends thinking about (or longing for) the affair and the other woman. Yes, most husbands will proclaim that the affair is 100% percent over. He may even claim that he wants to move […]

How Do I Rebuild Confidence in Myself After My Husband’s Affair? Some Tips To Help You Overcome Your Doubts

By: Katie Lersch: If you’re reading this, you might still be reeling from the sting of infidelity, not just because your husband cheated, but because of what it did to your sense of self. Maybe you’re asking yourself: “Was I not enough?” or “Can I ever trust my own judgment again?” I often hear from women […]

My Spouse Is Still Bringing Up My Affair Ten Years Later

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who feel as if they will never be truly free from an affair that is in the past.  Often, they have tried everything that they know to do to make sure that their spouse can heal and move on.  But it doesn’t happen, even many years later. I […]

Trusting Again After Cheating: Tips To Help You Start Moving Forward

By: Katie Lersch: Believe it or not, after the shock, grief, and pain of an affair or cheating begin to wane, deep down, many people want to save the relationship. Often, there is still a lot of love, affection, and history left between you, and it is difficult to throw all of that away over […]

I’m Worried My Husband Legitimately Loved the Other Woman in the Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives dealing with the devastating aftermath of an affair. And one of the most common but heartbreaking questions I hear is this: “What if he really loved her? It almost looks like he is mourning the loss of her.” If you’re asking yourself this question, I want you […]

Why Am I Turned On By The Details Of My Husband’s Affair? What Is Wrong With Me?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from wives who are truly perplexed by their reaction to hearing the details of their husband’s affair.  Usually, they will tell you that they expected to be not only furious, but totally turned off by their husband.  And often, no one is more shocked than them when this turns […]

My Husband Got Fit and Then He Cheated On Me. What Now, When I’m Still Out of Shape?

By: Katie Lersch: I hear from a lot of women who feel completely blindsided when their husband cheats — but there’s a unique kind of hurt when the betrayal follows a very specific shift: He lost weight. He got in shape. He started working out, and then he had an affair. And now you’re left […]