Infidelity Articles By Katie Lersch

By: Katie Lersch:   I often hear from the spouse who was cheated on.  Occasionally though, I sometimes get messages from the spouse who cheated.  Perhaps my perspective is skewed because I was one of the spouse’s who was cheated on, but it’s usually pretty obvious which people are sincere and which aren’t.  Some ask for […]

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By Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who can’t get their husbands to be honest about his affair.   Sometimes, the husband has admitted to cheating but he’s trying to diminish or downplay the severity of it.  Other times, the husband is flat out denying he had an affair even though the wife knows that […]

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By: Katie Lersch: Variations on this question are so common. I often hear from wives who desperately want to understand just what in the world their husbands were thinking while he was cheating on them. I often hear comments like “I want to know if he was thinking about me at all when he was […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes speak with wives who are reeling in the days after they’ve found out about their husband’s affair. They are heartbroken, angry, and — perhaps most confusing of all — faced with a husband who suddenly seems to have transformed into the most attentive, romantic version of himself. He’s buying flowers. […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I get versions of this question all the time from wives who are trying to pick up the shattered pieces of their lives after an affair. And I completely understand why. When your trust has been broken in such a painful and intimate way, it’s only natural to wonder: Can I ever really […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes speak with wives who are dealing with a gut-wrenching kind of betrayal — the kind that doesn’t involve a hotel room or a confession of a physical act, but still leaves them just as shaken. I’m talking about emotional affairs — those secret connections that might not involve physical intimacy, […]

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By: Katie Lersch: Over the years, I’ve had a lot of heartbreaking messages from wives who are struggling to wrap their minds around how a husband who had an affair can still claim to love them. One woman recently said it like this: “I keep asking him if he loves the other woman. Because to […]

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By: Katie Lersch:  One of the most common — and painful — questions I hear from wives after infidelity is: “Why did he do it?” Many of these women were completely blindsided. They thought things were fine — maybe even happy — and suddenly, they’re facing the fallout of an affair they never saw coming. […]

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By: Katie Lersch: When a husband cheats, it can shatter the foundation of even the strongest marriage. I often hear from wives who are doing everything they can to heal and move forward, but the biggest hurdle standing in their way is learning how to trust again. It’s not that they don’t want to trust. […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I once spoke with a wife who asked a question I’ve heard a lot before. It’s a deeply personal issue that rarely gets talked about. She and her husband were trying to heal after his short-term affair. He had done most of what she asked—ended the other relationship, committed to rebuilding trust, […]

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