Infidelity Articles By Katie Lersch

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who feel as if they will never be truly free from an affair that is in the past.  Often, they have tried everything that they know to do to make sure that their spouse can heal and move on.  But it doesn’t happen, even many years later. I […]

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by: Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who are trying to understand how and why their spouse had an affair. The questions tend to sound very similar. They are thoughtful, confused, and filled with disbelief. Many will say things like, “I cannot understand how my usually conservative husband could have gotten involved with someone […]

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by: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who spend a great deal of time worrying about the woman that their husband had an affair with.  It’s not at all uncommon to develop a sort of unhealthy obsession with her.  And, while we’re developing this preoccupation with her, we often assume that our husbands are […]

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by: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who want to know whether a marriage can truly recover after adultery. Sometimes the email comes from the spouse who cheated and is desperate to make things right. Other times, it comes from the faithful spouse who is heartbroken but unwilling to let one painful chapter define […]

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By: Katie Lersch: Sex after an affair is one of the most common topics that is brought up by people who read my blog.   There can be a lot of awkwardness, confusion, and questions about resuming your sex life after one spouse has been unfaithful.  And, there’s a lot at stake here because when […]

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by: Katie Lersch: I once heard from a wife who desperately wanted to save her marriage after her husband had been briefly unfaithful. That does not mean she wasn’t devastated. She was. She was hurt, angry, shaken, and grieving the sense of safety she once had. At the same time, she felt deeply conflicted. Saving […]

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by: Katie Lersch: I once heard from a wife who had a brief affair during one of the most fragile moments of her life. Her mother was dying of cancer. Her husband was traveling for work. She felt lonely and overwhelmed, and what she described as a “fling” happened before she even understood what she […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who are trying to find their footing again after their husbands cheated. But every so often, I also hear from the other woman. These women usually want my take on the man’s behavior and what it means. They’ll say things like: “He was happier with me. He […]

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by: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from women whose husbands have had long-term affairs. These wives will almost always tell me the same thing: “I wish it had just been a one-night stand. At least then it wouldn’t have involved feelings.” Many wives draw a very sharp line between physical cheating and emotional cheating. In […]

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Comments Off on Is There Any Difference Between Cheating and Having an Affair? Which is Worse?

by: katie lersch: I often have two different sets of people asking me this question.  Sometimes, people whose spouses are having an affair want to know why and how affairs end so that they can attempt to make the affair end sooner.  Other times, I hear from the people involved in the affair.  They don’t […]

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