Infidelity Articles By Katie Lersch

By: Katie Lersch:  Believe it or not, many people express a sense of relief when the affair ends.  Sometimes, the intensity of the affair is very exciting at first, but it becomes troublesome as time goes on, especially if the affair partner clings too tightly or almost becomes obsessive.  So it can be a huge […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I get why this feels suspicious. I really do. It sounds like a cop-out. Like something someone would say to avoid the hard stuff. But in some cases? I actually believe it is possible. Sometimes, men don’t fully understand what led them to cheat. That doesn’t mean they aren’t responsible for it. […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who are quite confused. Often, after much soul searching and a good deal of effort, they have decided not to automatically turn their back on their cheating husband. Many figure that he will be extremely relieved about this and therefore extremely willing to show his affection and […]

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By: Katie Lersch: Sometimes, I hear from a spouse who is fully aware that their spouse is cheating and having an affair. They feel that they have sufficient proof to know the whole truth. In their hearts, they know that he is cheating and they are more than ready to deal with that. At this […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes speak with wives trying to pick up the pieces after their husband’s affair: Some of them say things like, “He’s the one who cheated, but I’m the one who’s changing everything, doing all the emotional heavy lifting, and bending over backward to fix this. Why does it feel so backwards?” […]

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By: Katie Lersch:   I often hear from the spouse who was cheated on.  Occasionally though, I sometimes get messages from the spouse who cheated.  Perhaps my perspective is skewed because I was one of the spouse’s who was cheated on, but it’s usually pretty obvious which people are sincere and which aren’t.  Some ask for […]

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By Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who can’t get their husbands to be honest about his affair.   Sometimes, the husband has admitted to cheating but he’s trying to diminish or downplay the severity of it.  Other times, the husband is flat out denying he had an affair even though the wife knows that […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes speak with wives who are reeling in the days after they’ve found out about their husband’s affair. They are heartbroken, angry, and — perhaps most confusing of all — faced with a husband who suddenly seems to have transformed into the most attentive, romantic version of himself. He’s buying flowers. […]

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By: Katie Lersch: Variations on this question are so common. I often hear from wives who desperately want to understand just what in the world their husbands were thinking while he was cheating on them. I often hear comments like “I want to know if he was thinking about me at all when he was […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I get versions of this question all the time from wives who are trying to pick up the shattered pieces of their lives after an affair. And I completely understand why. When your trust has been broken in such a painful and intimate way, it’s only natural to wonder: Can I ever really […]

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