The Fallout from My Husband’s Affair Makes Me Feel Constantly Anxious, Unwell, and Nearly Ill

By: Katie Lersch: If you’ve never dealt with a spouse’s infidelity, you might assume that you’ll deal with a week or two of massive shock and sadness until you eventually level out in a relatively short period of time. Even if you’re still struggling, you might think, you’ll still need to start to move on […]

Why Do Married Men Cheat? What May Well Be the Real Reason

By: Katie Lersch: Because of my past history with infidelity and the upkeep of this blog, I can’t tell you how often I think and talk about why men actually cheat on their wives. And I believe that I have an accurate answer, but it may surprise some people.  See, most folks assume that when a […]

The Most Important Things To Know After Your Husband Has an Affair. What Should You Ask Him About His Cheating?

By: Katie Lersch: Many wives dealing with infidelity have countless questions about their husband’s affair. Not surprisingly, many of them are unsatisfied with the answers that they are receiving and the resistance that they are meeting when they ask these questions.  You might hear a comment like, “I deserve answers about his affair. There are […]

I’m Not Sure If We Can Save Our Marriage Because Of All The Resentment I Feel After His Affair

by: Katie Lersch: Some wives dealing with the aftermath of an affair may describe themselves as “overtaken with resentment.”  As an example, a wife might be dealing with a husband who confessed that he’d had a year long affair. The wife didn’t even begin to see this coming and was completely blindsided and devastated. For […]

Can I Truly Put My Trust in My Husband After His Affair? How Do I Know For a Fact That He Won’t Cheat Again?

By: Katie Lersch: Questions stemming from the trust after an affair is among the most common I hear. People want to know how they can ever trust again after so brutal a betrayal. And they worry that if they dare to trust, they might be burned again. A wife might say, “We are months post-cheating, […]

Once Men Go Back to Their Wives After Cheating, Do They Stay?

By: Katie Lersch: Because of what happened to me, I’ve spoken with wives whose husbands have recently returned to them after cheating or having an affair. While many are relieved that their husbands have returned, they are also often filled with doubt about whether the marriage will survive and whether their husbands will end up […]

Will Shaming My Husband Make Him Feel Guilty About Cheating or Having an Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: One of the biggest concerns that many faithful wives dealing with an affair have is that of remorse and guilt. They WANT their husband to feel shame, guilt, and remorse. Because they figure if he experiences these painful emotions, he will think twice about cheating again. Unfortunately, many of these wives don’t […]

Truly Moving on After Your Spouse Cheats or Has an Affair – Tips on How to Do It

By: Katie Lersch: Most people hope that they’ll never have to deal with marital infidelity. But when they do, it can be an unexpected pain that is unparalleled. The thought of moving on can seem impossible and very far away. Even when you want to start moving on, contemplating the steps to do so can […]

Why Do I Feel More Anger at Myself Than At My Spouse After His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: Most people realize that it’s very normal to feel outright rage after you find out that your spouse has cheated and had an affair. But what some do not realize is that you can feel anger not only toward your spouse but also toward yourself. Even the wives who are feeling this […]

What If I Can’t Forgive My Cheating Husband? What Happens Then?

By: Katie Lersch: Despite their best efforts, many faithful wives have come to point where they’ve decided (usually with a heavy heart) that they aren’t going to be able to forgive their husband for cheating on them or having an affair. These same wives often say that they’ve tried everything that they know to do, […]