Infidelity Articles By Katie Lersch

I often hear from people who are trying to come to terms with their spouse’s affair. One of the most common questions that we all have is: why? It is an understandable question. But when you really stop to think about it, you come to realize that it is so unlikely to get an answer […]

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I sometimes hear from wives who have done their research and know that, statistically speaking, most affairs come to an end relatively quickly.  They try to keep this in mind when their husband is dragging his feet about ending the affair or insisting that he needs “more time” to make up his mind.  However, quite […]

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Understandably, wives who are dealing with infidelity want their husbands to feel just as alarmed and hurt by this situation as they are. They want him to feel the depth and gravity of what he has done. They want him to be every bit as upset about this as everyone else – perhaps even more […]

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By: Katie Lersch:  When you’re an outsider looking in, it’s hard to understand how a wife can blame herself when her husband cheats or has an affair.  Before this happens to you, you probably think it’s very clear cut that if a husband cheats or has an affair, then he (and the other woman) are […]

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I sometimes hear from wives who somewhat regret their harsh reaction to their husband’s affair.  Understandably, the wife had a strong reaction.  But she still feels that she has said and done some things that she now regrets.  Many fear that they have damaged their marriage with what they now see as an overreaction, and […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who don’t understand why they are still angry or resentful when so much time has passed since their husband has cheated or had an affair.  Often, they believe that they have done everything in their power to heal.  And that enough time has passed for things to […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from women who feel as if they just need to contact the woman who cheated with their husband. Some of these wives want to confront the other woman face to face. They want to try to read her eyes and evaluate her truthfulness. And they feel as if there […]

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When a spouse cheats when they were supposedly happily married, most people would consider this to be a clear cut case of betrayal. But what happens if the spouses are separated and one of them is intimate with someone else? Is this still considered cheating? Is the recovery process the same? These questions recently came […]

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I often hear from wives who are trying very hard to come to grips with their husband’s cheating or having an affair.  One theme that I hear quite often from these women is how much their husband has changed from before the affair or cheating, after it, or both. I often hear comments like: “My husband […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who are having trouble figuring out their husband’s odd or troublesome behavior after his affair. One common example of this is defensiveness. Many wives notice their husband acting particularly defensive to any question, comment, or remark. I recently heard from a wife who said “no matter what […]

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