Infidelity Articles By Katie Lersch

By: Katie Lersch: It’s maddening when you want all possible information about your husband’s infidelity, but he just clams up. It’s pretty easy to figure out WHY he’s being quiet – he’s afraid that if he attempts to explain or to give you more information, you are just going to get more angry or use […]

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By: Katie Lersch:  There is often an assumption that as soon as a spouse finds out that the other is cheating, all sexual and romantic contact stops for a very long time.   This DOES sometimes happen.  But it is not the case for every couple.  For some, it is difficult to halt every aspect […]

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By: Katie Lersch:  Many wives who find out that their husband is still actively cheating often lists “getting him to stop” as the most important goal.  This is true even if the wife has no idea if she wants to save her marriage.  Very few people are going to discover cheating and then look the […]

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By: Katie Lersch: A good deal of people who cheat do so for their own personal reasons. They do it to feel better about themselves in some way. They do it because they have poor impulse control or because they have allowed themselves to be involved in a tempting situation. Some do it because they […]

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By: Katie Lersch: Understandably, one of the most common issues a couple can have when trying to recover after an affair centers around sex.  Most people can understand why it would be awkward.  Your spouse has had sex with someone else.  There is anger, hurt, and doubt.  There is worry that the sex will be […]

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By: Katie Lersch:  I’ve heard all sorts of excuses that husbands will give for having an affair.  Sometimes, even the husband knows that the excuse is pretty lame. He’s saying it just to have something to say.  (And saying anything can feel better than just staying silent.)  But one of the lamest excuses out there […]

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By: Katie Lersch:  Often, when people are carrying out an affair, they know somewhere deep in their hearts that they may one day be caught.  But they will often push these worries down.  Having an affair can actually be pretty stressful.  You can only handle so many things at one time, so it is sometimes […]

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By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from people who greatly regret cheating on their spouse, partly because they are now living through a very difficult recovery period for their spouse, their marriage, and themselves.  Understandably, no one wants to be in this type of pain forever, so people are always looking for signs of improvement.  […]

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By: Katie Lersch: Sometimes, you really wish that you could just quiet all of the voices in your head after your husband’s affair. You wish that you could shut up the voice that ask you how you could have missed the signs. You wish that you didn’t hear the voice that asks you how you […]

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By: Katie Lerch:  One of the worst things about the time period after learning about an affair is the fact that the process can change the way that you see yourself.  If this isn’t bad enough, you can perceive that it can also change the way that others see you.  A wife might perceive that […]

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