By: Katie Lersch: Many people intuitively know that probably the fastest and most effective way to save their marriage after an affair is counseling. (Well, I should probably preface that last sentence and say that most women intuitively know this.) For whatever reason, I find that overwhelmingly, women are more likely to be open to […]
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By: Katie Lersch: It’s no surprise that many wives let out a few profanities when they discover that their husband has been cheating. As someone who has gone through this, I can tell you that you truly are not even thinking rationally at the time. Words fly out of your mouth that you may not […]
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By: Katie Lersch: Most of the time, when I get correspondence relating to this blog, it is from someone who is dealing with infidelity, but who is trying to maintain their marriage. It’s rare for me to hear from someone who has no part in the marriage, but it does sometimes happen. I do occasionally […]
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By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are really itching to contact the woman with whom their husband cheated or had an affair. Some know that other woman – even if she is only an occasional acquaintance – and others are strangers to her. But most can figure out how to contact her. […]
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By: Katie Lersch: Many wives whose husband has had an affair notice a severe change in attitude from their husband immediately after the affair and then a few months later. Sometimes, a husband is loving and apologetic at first and then loses patience with always being the “bad guy” or being questioned, so he takes […]
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By: Katie Lersch: I think it’s fair to say that almost anyone would understand that a wife who is dealing with an affair is also probably dealing with a bit of insecurity. Sure, you might hear your husband proclaiming his love for you and making claims that he wants to save your marriage and make […]
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By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who are being told by their spouse that they shouldn’t blame themselves for the affair. The cheating spouse is taking full responsibility and is encouraging the faithful spouse to take none of the blame. While this can be reassuring, it can also be confusing. Because if your […]
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By: Katie Lersch: People can assume that wives who have trouble getting over their husband’s affair truly don’t want to get over it. There is an assumption that you, as the wife, are making a choice to dwell on it. Perhaps you always want to have this reason to berate or to be angry at […]
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By: Katie Lersch: When it appears to you that your husband is actually happy with the other person in the affair, you can begin to feel fierce resentment. Because from your perspective, they are getting everything. They seem to be in love, they can move on with their life, and they may well live happily-ever-after […]
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By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes get correspondence from unfaithful spouses who truly are trying to do the “right thing,” by ending the affair and by cutting off all contact, but they are having a hard time following everything through. They may be experiencing feelings or doubts that they never anticipated. Someone might explain it this […]
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