By: Katie Lersch: There is no question that an affair changes your marriage – at least in the short term. But not every one immediately considers a divorce. Sometimes, there are circumstances that preclude a divorce – like children, finances, or religious beliefs, to name only a few. Despite these circumstances though, people sometimes want […]
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By: Katie Lersch: It’s very normal for both spouses to have trouble effectively expressing their emotions after the affair. Sometimes, it is hard to say what you mean. Other times, it’s easy to feel defensive since the faithful spouse might be lashing out and saying hurtful things. That’s why in this atmosphere, it can be […]
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By: Katie Lersch: Much of the time, we underestimate ourselves. We look at people facing hardships with dignity and grace and we are full of admiration and awe. We are proud of them. We wish them well. But we also secretly think that we could never handle obstacles or struggles in the same skillful way. […]
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By: Katie Lersch: Those of us who have had someone cheat on us know that our worst fear becomes having to deal with this again at sometime in the future. So we become very adept at watching and looking for any clues as to whether anything is amiss. This is understandable, considering the pain that […]
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By: Katie Lersch: I find that there is a perception that most faithful spouses see the affair coming and are not all that surprised by it. The theory behind this is that in most affairs, there is a long term problem (or void) within the marriage and both people feel it. So, while the affair […]
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By: Katie Lersch: When you first find out that your spouse has been cheating, you probably expect for HIM to be the one who is sorry. Unfortunately, many wives are very surprised to find that their husband also expects for them to be sorry. If this isn’t disappointing and confusing enough, many find themselves shocked […]
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By: Katie Lersch: Faithful spouses can hear many excuses meant to justify the cheating. Sometimes, the excuse will try to shift the blame elsewhere. For example, a cheating husband will accuse his wife of being inattentive and cold. Or a cheating wife will say her husband never appreciated her. Sometimes though, the cheating spouse is […]
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By: Katie Lersch: Sometimes, when we are reeling from the discovery of a spouse’s affair, we also have to deal with questions about what role we, as the faithful spouse might have played in all of this. Sometimes, even our friends or loved ones ask pointed questions about ourselves and our about our marriage – […]
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By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are fluctuating on their decision as to whether or not to stay in the home after they have caught their husband cheating. Many are trying to weigh the pros and cons of this and are having trouble coming up with any pros or advantages. The thought […]
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By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who are greatly struggling with their spouse’s infidelity. Many are surprised that they are struggling this way because they consider themselves to be resilient people who can mostly cope with challenges quite well. They do not understand why they can’t just lean on their resolve and carry […]
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