I Changed After My Affair. I’m Restless With My Life.

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from folks who truly do want to save their marriage after they made the mistake of cheating or having an affair, but they aren’t sure if this is going to be possible because of a change that has taken place within them. I heard from a wife who said: […]

I Have Forgiven My Spouse For His Affair. But I Just Don’t Feel The Same Anymore.

By: Katie Lersch: Forgiveness after an affair is a huge milestone that not everyone is able to offer. Many choose to forgive in order to free themselves from the anger and despair that the aftermath of infidelity often brings. But some are disappointed to find that even after forgiveness, they still don’t feel exactly the […]

I Cheated On My Husband And He’s Furious And Hurt. How Can I Save My Marriage?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from faithful spouses who are looking for some tips on how to heal. Sometimes though, I hear from cheating spouses who are remorseful and who want tips on how to help their spouses recover or to save their marriage. Often, they are understandably dealing with quite a bit on […]

When My Husband Says Or Does Sweet Things, I Wonder If He Told The Other Woman The Same Thing

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are torn when their husband says or does sweet things.  While most wives would love to hear these sorts of things, a wife whose husband has been unfaithful always finds herself second guessing.  She finds herself wondering if his words are original or recycled.  And this […]

Demanding Personal Information And Passwords After A Spouse’s Affair: Do You Have That Right?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who are struggling with endless suspicions after their spouse has cheated or had an affair. Often, they spend a lot of time worrying about whether the affair is really over or if their spouse is going to eventually cheat again. So they will often look for a […]

Should I Tell The Coworker Who I Had An Affair With That I Want To Save My Marriage?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who greatly regret having an affair and who now want to undo the damage and turn their attention to saving their marriage. Often though, while their intentions may well be genuine, the situation itself can be quite tricky. They often wonder what is the best way to […]

Does My Spouse Really Want The Truth About My Infidelity?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from folks who are very confused by all of their spouse’s questions and demands in regards to their affair. Often, their spouse is demanding to know the entire truth about the infidelity as well as all of the details. But when they try to comply and offer their spouse more […]

My Spouse Says He Forgives Me For My Affair, But It’s Obvious That He Really Doesn’t

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who have theoretically been forgiven for their cheating or having an affair, but who don’t feel as if their spouse is truly sincere about any forgiveness that’s been offered. I heard from a wife who said: “last year I had an affair with one of our mutual friends. […]

Does A High Sex Drive Ever Justify Cheating?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who are struggling with how to process their loved one’s excuse for cheating.  Many times, the cheating person will attempt to offer up some justification for the cheating that includes a flaw with the other person or with the relationship.  It may be expressed as a need that […]

How Do I Effectively Show Genuine Remorse To My Spouse For Cheating?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from spouses who have made the grave mistake of cheating or having an affair. Many of them are genuinely sorry for this mistake and they want to make things right again. Most of them have repeatedly expressed their sorrow and remorse for their actions. But, much of the time, […]