Should I Allow My Husband To Read My Journal After His Infidelity

By: Katie Lersch: It is not an overstatement to say that a fifty cent spiral notebook saved my sanity after my husband’s affair. I had journaled off and on since high school, but there had never been another time in my life when releasing my words became so important and so healing. I’ve had people […]

What Does It Mean When Your Spouse Is Calm After Finding Out About The Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s a stereotypical idea that after someone finds out that their spouse has been cheating, they become overly emotional, enraged, or traumatized. You’d expect crying, screaming, and maybe even a little bit of rage. When you don’t get that, it can be unexpected. And the cheating spouse can be left wondering why […]

My Spouse Never Wants To Be Alone With Me Since My Affair

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from spouses who deeply regret cheating on their spouse and who are now ready to get on with the work of saving their marriages. These spouses will often tell you that they would be willing to do just about anything to save their marriage if only given the chance. […]

How Can I Be Sure That My Husband Has Told Me Everything About The Other Woman?

By: Katie Lersch: One of the most common concerns that I hear about from wives who are dealing with the aftermath of an affair is the other woman. It’s normal and natural to be curious about her. It’s understandable that you want to know what (and who) you are up against. It’s normal to want […]

Can A Cheating Husband Really Be Rehabilitated?

By: Katie Lersch: By far, one of the most common concerns that I hear from wives who are trying to determine if they want to save their marriage with a husband who has cheated is whether or not that same husband will cheat again. Many wives feel that they might be willing or able to […]

Can My Spouse Ever Forgive Me For Cheating? Is This Even Possible?

By: Katie Lersch: I’m pretty sure that if you were to ask any twenty cheating spouses what they most wanted once the affair was over, at least fifteen of them would say that they wanted their spouse’s forgiveness – especially among those who want to save their marriages. I have to tell you that in […]

How Do I Explain Why I Had An Affair When I Was Happy?

By: Katie Lersch: I hear from a lot of people grappling to understand why their spouse cheated on them or had an affair. Contrary to popular belief, your marriage doesn’t have to be struggling in order for an affair to happen. In fact, a good deal of people that I hear from were sure that […]

How Do I Help My Husband End His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I very often hear from wives who are trying very hard to inspire their husband to end his affair. After all, it’s fairly obvious that it’s going to be extremely difficult to save your marriage when it’s no longer just the two of you. There are many reasons that a man will […]

How Can I Not Worry About My Husband’s Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: There is no question that finding out that your spouse has been cheating on your can force your mind to operate in overdrive. Suddenly, all those things that you weren’t really concerned too much about – your future, your marriage going forward, and your self esteem – are taking up prime real […]

How Do I Assure My Spouse That I Am No Longer Cheating?

By: Katie Lersch: When you are a spouse who has cheated, you can understand how your spouse might doubt the sincerity of what you say or claim. And, you can also understand how your spouse might suspect that you are still cheating even though they might want to believe that you aren’t. (This is especially […]