Why Does My Cheating Husband Succeed In Making Me Feel Remorseful. How Does This Work?

By: Katie Lersch:  When you first find out that your spouse has been cheating, you probably expect for HIM to be the one who is sorry.  Unfortunately, many wives are very surprised to find that their husband also expects for them to be sorry.  If this isn’t disappointing and confusing enough, many find themselves shocked […]

My Spouse Says He Cheated Because He Didn’t Feel Good About Himself. Is This Believable?

By: Katie Lersch:  Faithful spouses can hear many excuses meant to justify the cheating.  Sometimes, the excuse will try to shift the blame elsewhere. For example, a cheating husband will accuse his wife of being inattentive and cold.  Or a cheating wife will say her husband never appreciated her.  Sometimes though, the cheating spouse is […]

How Much Personal Responsibility Does The Faithful Spouse Have To Take For The Affair When They Are Not The Ones Who Cheated?

By: Katie Lersch: Sometimes, when we are reeling from the discovery of a spouse’s affair, we also have to deal with questions about what role we, as the faithful spouse might have played in all of this. Sometimes, even our friends or loved ones ask pointed questions about ourselves and our about our marriage – […]

Are There Any Advantages of Staying With A Husband After His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are fluctuating on their decision as to whether or not to stay in the home after they have caught their husband cheating. Many are trying to weigh the pros and cons of this and are having trouble coming up with any pros or advantages. The thought […]

Why Does Infidelity Hurt So Much?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from people who are greatly struggling with their spouse’s infidelity. Many are surprised that they are struggling this way because they consider themselves to be resilient people who can mostly cope with challenges quite well. They do not understand why they can’t just lean on their resolve and carry […]

My Husband Says That He Will Break Off The Affair, But He Wants To See Her One More Time When He Does It

By: Katie Lersch: When you find out that your husband is having an affair, the last thing that you want to think about is him continuing to see her – even if this is only one last time. No, you want for him to cut off any and all contact. And many wives have very […]

I Want To Make My Husband Insecure After His Affair So That He Will No Longer Have The Courage Or The Arrogance To Cheat Again

By: Katie Lersch: One of the big frustrations that I hear over and over again from wives whose husbands have cheated is that it annoys them to see their husband’s new found confidence (which sometimes borders on arrogance.) Many wives believe that all of a sudden their husband thinks he’s handsome and charming enough to […]

For How Long Should A Separation Last After An Affair? What’s A Structured Separation?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s normal to worry about what tomorrow is going to bring after your spouse had an affair.  You usually aren’t sure if you want to stay in the marriage.  And you also aren’t sure what your spouse really wants or if what is claiming now is all posturing.  Sometimes, the faithful spouse […]