What Are The Signs That My Spouse Knows The Affair Was Wrong?

By: Katie Lersch: Many faithful spouses really want to see their spouse express all kinds of remorse and sorrow for their betrayal during a marital affair. But more than this, we’d really like to believe that he knows that what he did was wrong and that he understands exactly why it was wrong. Because if […]

What Are The Signs A Marriage Will Fail After An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  Fear often makes people stop in their tracks when they are considering trying to keep their marriage after their spouse has an affair.  They are afraid that they will invest all this time and hard work into their damaged marriage and they will still end up failing and being extremely hurt. They […]

I Can’t Seem To Be Myself Around My Husband After His Affair

By: Katie Lersch:  Most people know that when attempting to build a healthy marriage, it’s best to be authentic.  When you plan to spend your life with someone, you want to be able to be your true self.  Imagine how exhausting it would be if you could never let your guard down.  How hard would […]

Does My Spouse’s Affair Mean That I Have To Change Who I Am? Do I Have To Be Someone I’m Not?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from people who feel as if their spouse’s affair is a personal criticism against them. Sometimes, they can not help but feel this way because their spouse has basically used their perceived shortcomings as an excuse for his cheating. And sometimes, your spouse says nothing but you assume these […]

I Honestly Didn’t Think It Was An Affair But My Spouse Disagrees And Is Calling Me A Cheater

By: Katie Lersch: I’m still always a little amazed at the number of people who are participating in very inappropriate behavior with someone who is not their spouse and who will still insist that they aren’t doing anything wrong, and are definitely not cheating. Almost always, their spouse disagrees and most definitely feels betrayed. People […]

After My Affair, My Spouse Thinks I’m The Only One To Blame

By: Katie Lersch: People who have affairs often truly believe that they are at least partly justified in the same. Many feel that they acted because they were somewhat unfulfilled in their marriages or they needed “something else” in their lives.  (I believe that this is sometimes a mistaken belief, but that’s beside the point.) […]

I Want To Sleep In Separate Bedrooms After My Spouse’s Infidelity, But He Thinks This Is Silly

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who really feel the need to set some firm boundaries after they have found out that their spouse has cheated on them. They often are not completely sure that they want to walk away from their marriage – especially if children are involved. But, they are unsure […]

I’m Finally Feeling Positive About Life After Husband’s Affair, But My Friends Say I’m Being A Fool

By: Katie Lersch:  People often assume that after the discovery of an affair, there is nothing but pain and struggles ahead.  Many people assume that although a couple may give a half-hearted attempt to save their marriage, this is mostly going to be a wasted effort, as couples who go through infidelity never end up […]

For How Long Should You Wait For An Apology After An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: Often when we find out our spouse or significant other has been cheating, we expect an apology right away. Most of us believe that it’s obvious who is at fault in this situation and that is the person who cheated. And, as a result, he is the one who should be expected […]

What Does A Husband Want From His Wife After He Cheated?

By: Katie Lersch:  When your husband has had an affair, you often think about what might need to happen in order to get your life to even approach normal again. You may not be sure what you want to happen with your marriage, but you just want to feel normal without all of this painful […]