How Do I Know That My Husband Is Sincere In Wanting To Save Our Marriage After His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  I sometimes hear from wives who admit that their husband is seemingly doing and saying the right things after his affair. Even so, the wives often have a nagging little feeling that they just can’t shake which is asking them if their husband is really sincere about everything that he says. Often, […]

Are There Any After The Affair Success Stories For Marriage?

I sometimes hear from married people (usually wives) who want to know if there is anyone out there who had a successful marriage after an affair.  By that, they mean a marriage that has returned or surpassed its former health and not a marriage that is just sort of stumbling along, with both people resentful […]

Why Won’t My Husband Touch Me After His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who are quite confused. Often, after much soul searching and a good deal of effort, they have decided not to automatically turn their back on their cheating husband. Many figure that he will be extremely relieved about this and therefore extremely willing to show his affection and […]

Our Relationship Is So Different After My Husband’s Affair. Will It Ever Be The Same Again?

By: Katie Lersch: Wives can feel as if they have lost many things after their husband’s affair.  Often you feel as if you’ve lost a little bit of your self esteem, your confidence in your marriage and your husband, and your belief that you are perceptive enough to know what’s going on.  Another loss that […]

My Spouse Says He Wants To Save Our Marriage But Admits He Still Has Feelings For The Affair Partner.  How Do I Cope With This?

By: Katie Lersch: It can be daunting to attempt to save your marriage after an affair.  You may want to do it more than anything, but even the most optimistic and loyal people will have doubts.  Even when the affair is over, it’s very hard to restore the trust and to believe that your spouse […]

Why Risk Everything For An Affair And Then Beg Your Spouse Not To Leave You?

I often hear from wives who do not understand the division between the man who is begging them not to not to leave him because of his affair and the man who risked literally everything in order to have that same affair. The wife often wracks her brain in order to figure out what his […]

I Feel Like I’m Almost Having Withdrawal After The Affair

I sometimes hear from people who willingly ended their affair because deep down, they knew that this was the right thing to do. Many of them truly do want to save their marriages and to maintain their families. So, they are at peace with the decision to end things and they know that it was […]

My Affair Partner Ghosted Me

I recently heard from someone who was trying to figure out why their affair partner had “ghosted” them. The gist of the communication was something like this, “I have been seeing this married man for about three months.  I thought that things were going wonderfully. We texted and emailed constantly and were able to actually […]

I Already Have One Failed Marriage And My Current Husband (Who I Thought Was The One) Cheated. What Is Wrong With Me?

I often hear from wives who are understandably extremely upset to find out that their husband has been cheating. Unfortunately, many place at least some of the blame on themselves: Why didn’t they see it? Were they not a good wife? Is there something wrong with them that contributed to a seemingly good man cheating? […]

What Are Good Questions To Ask My Husband After His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from women who are just beginning to deal with the aftermath of a husband’s affair. They are often trying to formulate the most appropriate questions that are going to help them determine why their husband cheated, what is the state of their marriage today, and what are the chances […]