Should I Write A Letter To The Woman My Husband Cheated With?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from women who feel as if they just need to contact the woman who cheated with their husband. Some of these wives want to confront the other woman face to face. They want to try to read her eyes and evaluate her truthfulness. And they feel as if there […]

We Were Separated When My Husband Cheated? Is It Still Cheating? What Now?

When a spouse cheats when they were supposedly happily married, most people would consider this to be a clear cut case of betrayal. But what happens if the spouses are separated and one of them is intimate with someone else? Is this still considered cheating? Is the recovery process the same? These questions recently came […]

My Husband Changed After His Affair

I often hear from wives who are trying very hard to come to grips with their husband’s cheating or having an affair.  One theme that I hear quite often from these women is how much their husband has changed from before the affair or cheating, after it, or both. I often hear comments like: “My husband […]

Why Is My Husband So Defensive After His Affair? What Can I Do About It?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who are having trouble figuring out their husband’s odd or troublesome behavior after his affair. One common example of this is defensiveness. Many wives notice their husband acting particularly defensive to any question, comment, or remark. I recently heard from a wife who said “no matter what […]

Will My Husband See His Mistress Again After The Affair Ends? How Can I Keep This From Happening?

by: katie lersch:  I often hear from women who are very reluctant to trust their husband again after his affair.  One major issue that frequently crops up is the husband seeing, thinking about, or being with the other woman again after the affair has supposedly ended.  Usually, the husband will deny that this is going […]

I Can’t Shake These Dreams That He Is Cheating Again

It’s almost universal that, at least for a while, the faithful spouse is going to be very paranoid about her spouse cheating again.  He can do or say all of the right things.  His behavior can be above reproach.  The couple might even be in intensive counseling.  But still, the worry is there.  Going through […]

What Percentage Of People Stay Married After One Of Them Has An Affair?

by: katie lersch: I often hear from people who are trying to determine how badly the odds are stacked against them and their marriage after their spouse has had an affair.   And, this is a concern that both husbands and wives share.  Anyone can be on the wrong end of their spouse’s affair and yet […]

Do Cheating Husbands Find Happiness With Their Affair?

By: Katie Lersch:  I often hear from wives who truly want to know what their husband legitimately feels during his affair.  Often, they can’t help but notice that he’s acting downright silly with a definite spring in his step.  He’s suddenly humming a little tune while getting ready for work and he’s suddenly nicer to […]

My Husband Can’t Even Look at Me After He Cheated And Had An Affair: Tips And Advice That Might Help

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who indicate that their husband is having a lot of trouble facing them after he has been caught cheating or having an affair. Often, he’s either ashamed, embarrassed, nervous, awkward, humiliated or a combination of all of these things. So, it can be quite difficult to deal […]

Giving The Silent Treatment To The Cheater. Is This Understandable? Is It An Effective Strategy?

By: Katie Lersch:  It’s natural to eventually have not too much to say to your cheating spouse.  Well, let me clarify that.  Many of us have PLENTY to say when we find out about the cheating.  And most of us say plenty (or scream plenty) as soon as the cat is out of the bag.  […]