Ruining Your Life By Cheating: Is There Any Way to Right the Ship?

By: Katie Lersch: Many people will tell you that cheating on their spouse is the worst mistake of their life. Most of them would do anything to take it back. But of course, they cannot. Unfortunately, what is done is done. And they must deal with all of the damage that follows right along behind […]

Do Husbands Who Cheat Or Have Affairs Have A Guilty Conscience?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives and women who ask me if cheaters have a conscience. But there seems to be a special category in this question for husbands. People seem to think that infidelity is a worse offense if a husband cheats. After all, he has made a lifetime commitment to be […]

My Cheating Husband is Only Concerned About Losing his Money After Having an Affair

By: Katie Lersch: A husband’s motivations after cheating can be hard to gauge. Some husbands seem most concerned with their marriage. Some are most concerned about their kids. And others seem concerned about things that have nothing to do with relationships. Money is one example. A wife might say, “When I caught my husband cheating, […]

I’m Not Sure I Want My Cheating Husband Around My Kids

By: Katie Lersch: When your spouse cheats on you, then you suddenly challenge the view you had of him. You suddenly rethink all of the attributes you thought he had. If you thought he was honest or honorable, you might rethink that. If you thought he put his family above everything else, that’s now in […]

I Almost Cheated on My Spouse as Revenge for Him Cheating on Me

By: Katie Lersch: Most people think they know how they will react when and if their spouse cheats on them. Many of them have gone over it in their minds more than a few times. However, once it happens to you, you might find that you’ll feel and do things you never anticipated. Your reaction […]

Why Do Some People Think Adultery is Exciting?

By: Katie Lerch: For people who do not and would not cheat on their spouse, adultery is a confusing topic. Many of us have known (and even loved) someone who cheated and who just couldn’t seem to control themselves. That person might have even perceived the cheating behavior as exciting, energizing, or mesmerizing. And this […]

My Spouse is Purposely Terribly Mean to Me After I Cheated and Had an Affair

By: Katie Lersch: Many people understand why a faithful spouse might have a huge amount of anger toward a cheating spouse. It’s also understandable that this anger might contribute to some harsh behavior. However, when the harsh behavior crosses the line or is unrelenting, the cheating spouse may think it’s become unfair. A cheating spouse […]

My Spouse Doesn’t Believe Anything I Say Since I Had an Affair

By: Katie Lersch: Many people don’t realize that life is not easy for either spouse after an affair. People often understand the faithful spouse’s difficulties, but they don’t think about the cheating spouse. Granted, it’s understandable that there wouldn’t be much sympathy for someone who made this type of mistake. And I’d never defend a […]

I Feel Pressured to Gloss Over My Husband’s Cheating Over the Winter Holidays

By: Katie Lersch: There’s no doubt that the winter holidays are a time for families to spend together. It can feel wrong for your family to be fractured at this time. There’s an inclination to “make nice” or to “keep the peace.”  But, of course, if your spouse has done something to fracture that same […]

I Feel Like I Have a Moral Obligation to Tell the Other Woman’s Husband About the Affair

By: Katie Lersch: People sometimes forget that, if both people who cheated are married, there may be four people dealing with the aftermath of an affair. Of course, it is human nature to focus on your own feelings and your own recovery. But sometimes, you can’t help but think about the other faithful spouse – […]