Infidelity Articles By Katie Lersch

I recently heard from a wife whose husband was proclaiming that he “loved her even more” in the months after his affair.  The wife thought he was just saying this to get back in her good graces again.  She didn’t believe this for a second.  She asked in part “is it possible for a husband to […]

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By: Katie Lersch:  As strange as it may sound, wives who are dealing with a husband’s affair can actually feel quite a bit of guilt.  They can feel guilty that they didn’t see the signs of an affair.  They might feel guilty that their marriage wasn’t perfect.  They might feel bad that they have a […]

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By: Katie Lersch: Many people who are trying to recover from an affair notice that they and their spouse see the events quite differently. The cheating spouse may be very remorseful for his actions, but if you’re dealing with a husband, you will often get reassurances that the affair was not an emotional one or […]

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By: Katie Lersch: If you are struggling with the aftermath of an affair, you likely already know that when topics about the details surrounding the affair come up, the faithful spouse can learn to tread very lightly.  Because although the cheating spouse may attempt to have patience when the affair is brought up initially, this […]

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By: Katie Lersch: Many husbands would like nothing more than for the wife to erase his infidelity from her mind and to never speak of it again. Of course, this is sometimes next to impossible for the wife, but the husband often can’t or won’t understand this. Someone might explain: “early on in our marriage, […]

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By: Katie Lersch:  I often hear from wives who just do not understand the hold that the “other woman” in the affair has over their husband. Many of these wives tell me that the other woman is not even that pretty, polished, or accomplished. And yet, they are beyond frustrated to see this plain Jane, […]

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by: katie lersch:  I’ve had people tell me that there are two camps of cheaters, as follows: 1. those who want out of their relationship (or are not fully invested in it) and therefore don’t care if they get caught; and 2. those who hope and pray that they never get caught because they are […]

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By: Katie Lerch: It’s easy to understand why having sex after your spouse has had an affair can be a very awkward experience.  It can be nearly impossible to not to think about your spouse having sex with someone else. It’s impossible not to worry about comparisons as well as to worry about whether both […]

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By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from wives who are overwhelmed or even ashamed by the emotions that they are feeling and displaying after they learn about their husband’s affair.  Many are quite embarrassed and worry that their reaction is stronger or more emotional than what is normal. A wife might say: “I feel like […]

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By: Katie Lersch: There is a real assumption that once a married man cheats, he has checked out of his marriage and is no longer connected to his wife. So, people often assume that a man who would cheat on his wife certainly doesn’t feel sincere and true love for that same wife. Unsurprisingly, it […]

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