How Long Should It Take To Let Go Of An Affair? Why Can’t My Spouse Let Go?

The time frame for letting go of an affair is a concern that I hear from people on both sides of the issue. For example, I sometimes hear from the spouse who was cheated on. Sometimes, they can’t help but notice that the spouse who cheated appears not to have totally “let go” of the […]

Can My Marriage Survive If My Husband Still Has Contact With The Woman He Cheated On Me With?

by: katie lersch:  It goes without saying that the ideal when you’re trying to save your marriage after infidelity or an affair is for the spouse who cheated to cut off all contact or ties with the other person.  It’s difficult enough to save your marriage when it’s only the two of you, but this […]

I’ll Never Forget The Look On My Husband’s Face When I Caught Him Cheating. I’m Afraid That This Means I’ll Never Truly Be Able To Heal And Move On.

By: Katie Lersch: Few moments as frozen in time as when a wife finds out that her husband has been unfaithful. For many of us, that image is embedded in our brains forever. And it’s an ugly memory – one that we’d very much like to forget. Many wives wonder if being repeatedly plagued and […]

How Can A Man Who Loves His Wife Have An Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: I often hear from wives who are really struggling with the reality that their husband has had an affair. Often, the hardest part for them is not the betrayal itself, but the circumstances that preceded the betrayal. Many of these wives are so confused because they had good marriages and loving husbands. […]

My Husband Says He Does Not Think About His Affair Anymore. How Is This Possible?

by: katie lersch: Many women who contact me confess that they often wonder just how much their husband thinks about the other woman once the affair is over.  Many husbands will downplay this or deny that he ever thinks about her.  And many of the wives have a very hard time believing this. I recently […]

How Do I Love My Husband Again After He Cheated And Had An Affair?

by: katie lersch: I often hear from wives who are having a hard time believing that they are ever going to feel the same way about their husband and their marriages again. Even though that many of these wives really do want to save their marriages, some doubt that this is going to be possible […]

Why Do I Keep Trying After My Husband Cheated On Me?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s very easy to get discouraged with any plan or strategy that you try after the discovery of an affair. Sometimes, you feel defeated before you even start. After all, no matter what you do, you may still have the sinking feeling that you are doing all of this work for someone […]

My Husband Wants Me To Leave Because Of His Affair. Shouldn’t He Be The One To Leave?

By: Katie Lersch: It’s not unusual to have to endure a change in living arrangements after the discovery of a marital affair – at least temporarily. Often, emotions and anger run very high, and it’s just not healthy for the couple to be in close quarters during the aftermath of discovery. Sometimes, this is a […]

What If Your Cheating Husband Never Shows Any Shame, Empathy, Or Remorse? What Does That Indicate?

By: Katie Lersch: Picking up the pieces after infidelity is difficult, no matter the circumstances. However, when you have a spouse who is showing no remorse or regret for his actions, it is arguably much more difficult to move forward. After all, there are many obstacles that couples must overcome – restoring the trust, maintaining […]

I Am So Paranoid After My Husband’s Affair. If He Even Looks At Another Woman, I Get Suspicious And Panic.

By: Katie Lersch: Common sense tells you that you may have a hard time trusting in your husband after you catch him cheating or having an affair. After all, his behavior has proven that, in the right circumstances, he will lie to and betray you. But you may not have anticipated just how bad this […]