What Makes A Wife Leave After Her Husband Cheats?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from folks who have cheated on their spouses. Many are panicked because they now realize that they have put their marriage in jeopardy. Understandably, they are worried that their spouse may leave them. You may hear comments like, “My wife hasn’t packed her bags and left the house yet. […]

Finding Peace After A Spouse’s Affair

By: Katie Lersch: It is very common for spouses struggling after an affair to feel as if they are still living in turmoil for a long time after they’d hoped that they would be fine. You often give yourself a specific time limit in which to move on. But very often, that time is reached […]

The Affair Actually Made Improvements To My Life, But My Spouse Will Not Acknowledge This

By: Katie Lersch: Occasionally, people will admit to others (and to themselves) that in some ways, having an affair improved at least some aspects of their lives. With this realization, they aren’t exactly defending the affair, but they can’t deny or denounce these improvements, either. Someone might explain, “this time last year, I was seriously […]

Feeling Worthless After A Spouse’s Infidelity? Tips That Might Help

By: Katie Lersch: It is not uncommon to take a huge hit in self-esteem if your spouse cheats or has an affair. However, some wives experience something even worse – a feeling of complete worthlessness. Not only do these wives not feel as valuable as they used to feel; they do not feel any value […]

Is It Possible That My Husband Isn’t Attracted To Me Because Of His Guilt Over His Affair?

By: Katie Lersch: Many wives hope for a cheating husband who makes a near-fool of himself to get in her good graces after an affair. In reality, many wives get much less than this. Many get husbands who are stand-offish, distant, and cold. Unfortunately, many husbands are LESS demonstrative and affectionate after they’ve been caught […]

Why Am I So Afraid To Leave My Cheating Spouse?

By: Katie Lersch: Many of us define our reaction to cheating before it ever happens to us. We tell ourselves (and our husband) that if he ever cheats, we are leaving. We claim that we will be out the door so fast his head will spin. However, when cheating becomes a reality, we stay put. […]

How To Keep Going When There Is Little Progress After The Affair

By: Katie Lersch: Unfortunately, many wives who are trying to move on after the affair are very frustrated with the pace of their progress. Many of them worry that recovery is taking far longer than they anticipated. They sometimes think that this means that their marriage is now doomed to fail or that they can’t […]

Why Does A Husband Move On From An Affair Sooner Than His Wife?

By: Katie Lersch: One of the top complaints from wives after a husband’s affair is an inability to move on. Even if you are typically stoic and practical, it can be normal to ruminate over a spouse’s affair for much longer than you intend to. Even worse, it can seem that the spouse who did […]

Who Has Affairs? Is There A Cheating “Type?” Are Men Or Women More Likely? Someone In A Midlife Crisis?

By: Katie Lersch: There is a stereotype of the aging man who has an affair with the golddigger younger woman. For the most part, this is who we picture when we think about marital infidelity. However, statistics tell us a very different story. It is not just men who cheat. It is not just older […]

What To Write On The Annivarsary Of Forgiving Your Spouse For Cheating When You’re Still Disappointed

By: Katie Lersch: Sometimes when you are trying to move on with life after the affair, you will remember significant days along the way. Even a couple of years later, these significant dates stick out in your mind. For example, you may remember the date that you found out about the affair, or when you […]