My Husband Blames Porn For His Affair. Can We Overcome This?

By: Katie Lersch: If a man was caught cheating a hundred years ago, he might tell you that the devil made him cheat.  Today, men still use the same type of excuses, but their excuses take on a new tone that fits with the time in which we live.  They will use terms like “sex […]

To Save My Marriage, I Have To End The Affair. What Do I Say To My Affair Partner? That It’s Over?

By: Katie Lersch:  Many people start an affair knowing that it is one day going to end.  I know that some people become “serious” about their affair partner and want for the affair to turn into a lasting relationship.  But from my observation, this thinking is in the minority.  Most people don’t intend to end […]

For How Long Should I Remain Separated From My Husband After He Cheated And Had An Affair Before I Take Him Back?

By: Katie Lersch:  I often hear from wives who are trying to formulate a plan to make sure that their husband is so remorseful and so desperate to get back into their good graces and save the marriage after an affair, that he will never cheat again.  To that end, many feel like they should […]

When A Husband Who Has Been Caught Cheating Says ‘What Do You Want From Me?’ What Does That Mean?

By: Katie Lersch: Once the cat is out of the bag and someone is caught cheating, there is often a period of shock and outrage.  In terms of fixing the damage, sometimes not much happens during this period.  Much of the time, very little can get accomplished because emotions run so high that all both […]

My Husband Has To See The Woman He Cheated With At A Conference

By: Katie Lersch:  Although spouses can and do meet the people who they cheat with anywhere and at any time, many of them meet the “other person” at work.  After all, most of us spend at least eight hours every day with co-workers or people who are not our family.  It makes sense then, then […]

My Spouse Doesn’t Want Sex After I Cheated: Insights That Might Help

By: Katie Lersch:  Sex can be a major conflict between a couple who is dealing with infidelity.  Understandably, having sex after knowing your spouse has cheated on you isn’t always comfortable or appealing.  This is almost to be expected when you are the faithful spouse.  But the spouse who cheated can have some difficulties in […]

What Are The Chances A Husband Will Choose His Wife Over His Mistress If He Can’t Make Up His Mind?

By: Katie Lersch: I sometimes hear from women on both sides of the affair who want some insight as to what the future might hold. Both feel that their life is sort of on hold while they are waiting for a cheating husband to make up his mind regarding which woman he wants to be […]

When Women Cheat Do They Usually Come Back To Their Spouse?

By: Katie Lersch:  There is a stereotype today about men who have affairs.  Most of us picture a middle-aged man in a midlife crisis who is bored at home and simply wants to have sex with someone else – at least for a little while.  But the idea is that once he gets that out […]

How Not To Feel Old And Ugly When Your Husband Cheats Or Has An Affair. Is This Even Possible?

By: Katie Lersch: I don’t want to insinuate that men do not cheat on young wives. They absolutely do. It’s just that young wives do not have all of the insecurities that women who are in a different age bracket may have. Young women do not yet worry if their best years have passed them […]

My Husband Ended His Affair And Came Home But Won’t Unpack His Things Or Come Anywhere Near Me

By: Katie Lersch: When you are hoping that your husband ends his affair and comes home, it can initially feel like a victory when both of things happen. After all, this is what you have been waiting for. Many wives figure that if they can just get their husband to come to his senses, end […]